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With a divorce
rate as high as 50%, men who were previously unavailable are re-entering the
dating pool, and with women nowadays delaying marriage until much later, you
might date a divorced man at some point in your life. Dating a divorced man can
come with some pros, for instance, he’s generally, more experienced and
mature, especially when it comes to dealing with conflicts. A divorce is
definitely a lesson for men to learn from their mistakes and do better in the
next relationships. However, dating a divorced man might present some cons
too:
• He has
children. Children require a considerable amount of energy,
time and money. But they also present a permanent connection with the ex-wife
and the in-laws.
• He has monthly
payments. On top of his monthly payments for the things he
needs such as car payments, house payments, and credit card payments, a
divorced man might have to pay for child support and spousal maintenance
payments, such as alimony. This will not only cut into his income but also will
generate a permanent link to his former marriage.
• He’s hurt and
not ready for a relationship. Depending on how long it has
been since the divorced, and whether or not he had gotten over it, a divorced
man might come with emotional baggage and might turn for other women for solace
and validation.
• …
In general,
dating a divorced man can present some difficulties depending on:
• Whether or not
he has children,
• The length of
his former marriage,
• The length of
time since his divorce was finalized and,
• And the reason
for the divorce and who initiated it.
This makes a man
who has no children, with a short marriage that ended up with a mutual
agreement, and who had been divorced for a long time, the easiest man to date.
However, real-life can be a lot messier.
Evaluate your relationship
A relationship,
in general, can be evaluated depending on how much satisfaction you’re getting
from it considering all the investment you'll have to put into the
relationship, aka the sacrifices you'll have to make. Since dating a divorced
man can present so many difficulties, you might find yourself making too many
sacrifices. You might find yourself giving up a job or a social life to spend
more time with his children, you might also have to give some money to cover up
for his financial issues, not to mention the emotional baggage that comes with
some divorced man. With such issues that are heaped on you, you’ll need to
decide whether or not the satisfaction the relationship will bring you will
balance your sacrifices.
The soon-to-be-separated man.
A soon-to-be-separated
man is someone who is entertaining the idea of leaving his wife but never filed
the divorce papers yet. It’s important to highlight this type of men because
usually, they’re out there looking to date someone else.
You need to be
careful in this case, because a soon-to-be-separated man usually, gets involved
with other women for solace and validation. You can sense if he’s using you or
not, from these signs:
• He’s recently
separated (usually less than six months).
• He shows great
interest in you then backs off once you show interest (maybe making the excuse
of ‘I want to take things slowly’).
• He tells you
how superior you are to his ex and how much better you are for him.
• He tells you
that the divorce will be quick and easy (which doesn’t seem to be the case).
The right way to
deal with a soon-to-be-separated man is by following these guidelines:
Rules For dealing with a soon-to-be-separated man Rule 1. Don’t get involved.
Until he proves
he’s serious about the divorce and actually proceed with it, you’d better avoid
any involvement in the relationship. First of all, he may never leave. Second,
his wife is going to hate you and make you look like a home-wrecker. Finally,
you might start doubting him. If he cheated on his wife, while they were still
married, what will stop him from cheating on you?
Rule 2. Know his excuses.
Especially when
it has been a while since he’s separated from his wife, he might start giving
you many excuses for why he can’t leave yet; He doesn’t want to hurt her, he’ll
miss the children, the divorce will cost him so much he can’t afford it yet…
Rule 3. Confront him.
In a gentle way,
ask him what’s holding him from getting divorced. Such confrontation will
either give him a wake-up call or will show you his true intentions. And yes,
you have the right to ask.
Rule 4. Keep it casual.
If you still
feel comfortable dating a soon-to-be-separated man, then do so. Just don’t
expect too much commitment from his part and so, don’t give much commitment
either. Not until you make sure he’s serious about the relationship and is
taking action to walk away from his former marriage.
Rule 5. Don’t play shrink.
His marital
problems and break up pain should be left to his buddies and therapist. Someone
who’s serious about you, won’t spend the entire time you’re with him to whine
about his broken marriage. More importantly, don’t try to advise him in any way
and don’t push him to divorce. You would want someone who divorces on his own
and not because he was urged to do so.
Rule 6. It’s never too late to back off.
If you sense
that he’s not serious about your relationship and isn’t getting divorced any
soon, consider walking away and telling him to call you when he’s divorced and
ready to start fresh.
The divorcing
man.
Problems with
dating a divorcing man
A divorcing man
is someone who has moved out, filed for divorce and is proceeding with the
divorce. Dating a divorcing man is quite different than dating a divorced man
for the following reasons:
Problem 1. He isn’t over his marriage.
Unresolved grief
is an issue that can plague any previously married man. However, the risk is
much higher when it comes to a divorcing man. There simply hasn’t gone enough
time for him to grief and move on.
Problem 2. He isn’t interested in an actual relationship.
There could be
many reasons why a man won’t be interested in an actual relationship right
after his divorce, much less in the midst of his divorce. You can sense that
he’s not interested in starting something serious if he’s ambivalent; showing
interest for a period of time and then doesn’t, breaking dates, or even when he
tells you that he’s not looking to get serious, which surprisingly not many
women take seriously and would still believe they can change his mind.
Problem 3. He wants to hide your relationship.
Making the
relationship public might threaten any settlement he’s trying to negotiate with
his ex-wife, especially when kids are involved. It will not only make his wife
jealous and angry, but it might also look bad in front of the court and custody
evaluators.
Problem 4. Others disapprove of your relationship.
Whether they’re
people from your side or from his, not many people are not open to the idea of
dating a divorcing man.
• Your friends
might fear that you’ll get hurt.
• The court will
be looking for the children's welfare.
• His ex,
grieving the loss of her marriage, might feel rejected and inadequate.
• His parents
are usually concerned that their son might regret his divorce, or that the new
relationship might add more mess to his ongoing divorce, and that they might
see less of their grandchildren. Also, the parents might fear that the divorce
is reflecting poor parenting from their part. And if they’re religious, they
might fear that their son is sinning.
Knowing the
reasons for any disapproval of your relationship is crucial to help you feel
less hurt and angry for the lack of support.
Problem 5. There are delays in the divorce proceedings.
An average
divorce takes one to two years, and it can be much longer. It doesn’t help that
most men will claim that the divorce will be quick or is almost over. The wait
can be frustrating. Therefore, it’s important to know in advance what you’re
getting into.
Problem 6. You have to “share” him.
Although he has
filed for divorce, his ex is legally still ‘his wife’. Therefore, his property
that includes his money, house, car, and other belongings, is still legally
hers too. He might also have to support her financially during the divorce if
she’s unemployed.
With such issues
to face, you need to proceed with caution and follow these guidelines:
Rules for dealing with a divorcing man Rule 1. Ask plenty of questions as soon as possible.
People don’t
often volunteer information about themselves that is going to make them look
less desirable. Asking questions will help you evaluate the relationship soon
enough, and prevent problems down the road. The following are some examples of
questions to ask a divorcing man:
• When did he
file for divorce? Asking this will allow you to decide if you’ll wait for much
longer, and to have an idea about how much grieving has been done.
• If he has
children.
• Who initiated
the divorce and why. If he’s the one who wanted the divorce he’s likely ready
to move on. However, the woman he left might not be as ready to move on. If
it’s the opposite, he might not be ready yet to get into another relationship.
• The last time
he had sex with his ex. This might not be the first question to ask, but asking
this question can tell you a lot about how serious he is about the divorce and
whether or not he’s ready to move on.
Rule 2. Take things slowly.
Because of all
the risks that dating a divorcing man can generate, it is crucial to take
things slowly.
• Don’t commit
too soon. Before making any commitment and investing your time
and energy into the relationship, take your time to evaluate the relationship.
The more complicated things are, the longer you’ll need to wait.
• Don’t move in
with him. It’s frustrating to wait, but it’s more frustrating
to wait while witnessing the mess of his divorce. You’ll have no escape from
the stress of dating a divorcing man, and if he has children, you might not be
ready to become a stepmother just yet, adding to that how bad it might look in
front of the court.
Rule 3. Keep your own life, friends, and activities.
If keeping your
own life, friends, and activities is useful in any new relationship, it’s
crucial when dating a divorcing man.
• Keep your job. Keeping your
job means that you’re financially independent, but it can also be a great
distraction from the stress of dating a divorcing man.
• Spend time
with your friends. Many women tend to blow off
their friendships when they get into a relationship. It’s a bad idea in
general, and a terrible one when dating a divorcing man. Having friends is
important to have the support you need, but also to stay happy and independent.
• Have lots of
activities. These activities will make sure that not every
happiness in your life depends upon your divorcing man. And, if he has children
and is going to spend time with them, you’ll still have your own activities and
your own plans.
• Keep your
things at your place. Avoid keeping any personal
things in his house, car, office or anywhere his ex might visit or have a key
to. This will prevent any jealousy drama.
Rule 4. Stay on the periphery of his divorce.
Becoming too
invested in the relationship might make his problems feel like yours. How much
custody he’ll have, whether or not he’ll keep the house or not, and how much
maintenance he might have to pay his ex-wife. Such problems can only add to
your stress. Moreover, you have no control over this situation. This is why you
need to keep your distance and stay at the periphery of his divorce.
• Accept that
the house and the kid aren’t yours. This will help
you get less attached to things you might lose.
• Don’t let him
lean on you too much. He may seek solace in you by
venting about his divorce or about his ex-wife. You want to be supportive, but
don’t get sucked in his divorce. It simply isn’t fair to burden you with his
divorce drama, and his complaining and venting should be left to his friends
and therapist.
Rule 5. Avoid competing with the ex.
This is his
divorce, and while you cannot win any competition with his ex, you’ll lose if
you get into one.
• When she’s the
problem. When his ex is resenting you, she might be hurt and
angry. Keep your distance from her, and if she starts badmouthing you or
threatening him, step aside and let her behave childishly.
• When you’re
the problem. If you’re the one feeling competitive, you should
distance yourself and avoid discussing his ex with him. Keep in mind that
you’ve already won because you’re the one with him (assuming that he’s worth
it).
• When he’s the
problem. If he’s responding to his ex’s calls and advances,
don’t blame her. He’s the one who needs to set clear boundaries. Remember that
the goal is to be happy, and not just keep the relationship going.
Rule 6. Accept the limitations of the relationship.
Keeping in mind
that the relationship has limitations and isn’t like any normal relationship,
will help you feel less hurt, as you won’t be expecting much at this stage.
However, he needs to set clear boundaries when it comes to his former life. You
don’t have to tolerate things like using divorce stress as an excuse for any
rudeness or uncaring behavior, or regularly breaking dates with you because
something came up with his ex. Remember that a man who cares about you would
want to make you happy.
The Divorced Man.
This man should
be easier to date than a soon-to-be-divorced man, or a divorcing man. However,
dating a divorced man can generate some challenges depending on how long the
marriage was, how long it has been since the divorce, whether or not they have
kids and the reason for the divorce and who initiated it. In fact, divorce,
unlike a nonmarital breakup, can lead to great loss such as:
• The loss of
faith in “Until death do us apart”. Including the
loss of faith in marriage and long-term commitment.
• The loss of
relationships. Not only did he lose his marriage, but also the
relationship he had through that marriage, such as with his in-laws and couple
friends.
• The loss of
property. When divorce occurs, property and belongings would be
divided. And some things like a house or a pet, that might have a great
sentimental value, will have to go to one of them.
• Loss of time
with children. While being married, he had complete access to his
children. However, after divorce, children will be either at mom’s or at dad’s
and more often at mom’s. This makes the time spent with his children limited.
Thus, it’s one more loss to grieve.
Problems with dating a divorced man.
Keep in mind
that the following problems, don’t necessarily apply to every divorced man and
that the extent of the problem varies.
Problem 1. He’s still living in the past.
A change can be
difficult, and depending on the circumstances –and the man- moving on, can take
a long period of time. While it’s normal to take some time to adjust, you still
need to be wary about the possibility that he might not have let go of his past
yet. Signs such as nonessential contact with his ex, wishing he could go back in
time and fix his mistakes, forgetting the bad and glorifying the past, or
talking about the past altogether, might be a red flag that he’s stuck in his
past and isn’t really available yet.
Problem 2. He hasn’t learned from his mistakes.
You must have heard
the saying “Those who forget history are doomed to repeat it”. Well, the same
goes for relationships. Many men don’t learn from their past mistakes, hence
the high divorce rate for second marriages compared to first marriages. You
don’t want to be the next one he’s going to divorce so look out for any signs
that might suggest that he didn’t learn from his past mistakes. These signs can
go like this:
• He has no clue
what caused the divorce. Reasons such as “we fought
all the time”, “she cheated on me”… are symptoms of marital discord and not
reasons for a divorce. The real reason would be usually a high incompatibility,
growing overwhelmed with responsibilities…
• He blames his
ex. Even if his ex had cheated on him, maybe he should
ask why would she cheat? Did he neglect her? Was he not supportive enough? Does
she have a history of infidelity? And even when his ex is a long-time cheat, it
would still be partly his responsibility that he chose to marry her despite the
fact that she had a history of cheating. Blaming his ex would make him feel
like a victim and this will prevent him from learning from his mistakes.
• He’s eager to
remarry. Especially when he hasn’t been divorced for so long,
too much eagerness might mean that he dislikes single life and is looking to
fill the void.
Problem 3. He isn’t interested in remarrying or having children.
It isn’t
uncommon to hear a divorced man claiming that he’s had it with marriage. It’s a
normal part of grieving. However, most men will recover from this stage and
will be ready to commit again. So if you’re looking for a serious relationship
and to have children, it’s important to make sure that he’s going to recover.
But don’t waste too much time finding out what his feelings are on the subject
or hoping that he might change his mind.
Problem 4. He has financial obligations.
He might be
burdened with too much financial obligations especially when he has many
children and his ex-wife didn’t work during their marriage. In that case, he’ll
have to pay alimony to his ex on top of the child support. Adding to that,
normal living expenses such as a house mortgage, a car loan, bills… not much is
going to be left of his income, that is if he’s not already deep in debt. In
this case, you might find yourself giving much of your income to compensate for
the payments he has to make for his former marriage. This is an issue to be
aware of and to discuss prior to any commitment in order to work around it.
Problem 5. You’re not his priority.
When it comes to
his time and his attention and when he has children from a former marriage, you
might find yourself not on top of the list of his priorities. He’ll have to
spend time with his children, which is acceptable. However, some boundaries
need to be set, especially when it comes to dealing with his ex-wife. For
example, he shouldn’t fix his ex’s car or act as her confidant or break dates
with you to help her with a personal problem.
Five Rules For Dating Divorced Man Rule 1. Ask plenty of questions.
Just as
previously advised for the soon-to-be-separated and the divorcing man, asking
questions, as early as possible, when dating a divorced man is important. This
will help you evaluate the relationship and how much you’re getting out of it,
in terms of satisfaction and happiness considering all the challenges it
involves and all the sacrifices you'll have to make. You can ask the following:
• When his
divorce was finalized? This will tell you whether or
not he’s divorced to start with, and how far he is in the grieving process.
Someone who has been divorced for years is usually done grieving and is
available.
• Whether he has
children and if so, how much he has them? Children
require a huge amount of time and money, but it can also mean an ever so
present ex-wife that might create some problems in some cases.
• What type of
relationship he has with his ex? You might not get an honest
answer regarding this question, but it’s something you should observe over
time. This is especially important when she’s too involved in his life, whether
it was because of the children, or just because they remained friends, or even
because she’s not over him yet.
Rule 2. Assess his baggage.
Assessing how
much baggage he has, will help you plan ahead how to deal with it and not get
overwhelmed down the road. The level of baggage to deal with depends on the following:
• The children. Their number,
and if there are any, how much does he have them, what ages are they, and how
is their behavior. Someone with little to no baggage would be someone with no
children, or with one child who is over 17 years old, who’s at his dad’s house
once in a while and is polite and well-adjusted.
• Financial
problems, including maintenance problems and child support.
• The ex-wife. An angry or a
difficult ex-wife, who has children with him and is around often, can make a
high level of baggage to deal with.
• His attitude
about former marriage. Someone who’s bitter, who has
no clue why it ended or is refusing to talk about it, is having a high level of
baggage.
Rule 3. Take things slowly.
With a divorcing
man, you don’t have to be as concerned about going slowly as with a
soon-to-be-separated man a divorcing man. However, because of the 5 problems
illustrated above, it is important to detect whether any of these problems
apply to him and how big are they before investing too much in the
relationship. Here are some ways to take things slowly:
• Don’t rush
into a serious relationship with him, until you have a clear idea of what the
situation is like.
• If he has
children, wait until your relationship becomes serious before meeting them, and
getting attached to them or they to you.
Rule 4. Evaluate your needs.
A man with too
much baggage, especially when he has children, can be unable to satisfy your
needs. He’s already loaded up with his own problem and might not be there for
you to give you the support and attention you need. Depending on how big his
baggage is, you need to evaluate how much you’ll be sacrificing and whether
that might lead to unhappiness down the road. Here are some questions to ask
yourself, before getting involved with a divorced man:
• Am I
comfortable enough sharing him with his children? Or with his ex-wife whom he
must deal with on a regular basis because of his children?
• Am I
comfortable with his financial obligations?
• Am I
comfortable with the way he’s raising his children?
• Do I get
enough time, love and support from him?
• Am I a high
enough priority in his life?
Rule 5. Be adaptable.
Once you made
sure, the challenges are manageable and figured out a plan, consider that some
things can’t be changed and therefore, you’ll need to adapt to them. In other
words, you’ll need to become accustomed to his divorce-related baggage.
Rules for dealing with the ex-wife
Rule 1. Figuring out the ex-wife.
Usually his
ex-wife will fall in one of those categories:
• The polite or
absent ex-wife. She’s someone who’s over the divorce. She can be
totally absent from his life, or friendly and polite especially when they have
children together.
• The
ever-present ex-wife. She calls too often, always
having a crisis and constantly needs help with one thing or another. If they
have children together she might be overly concerned about the kids when
they're with him. This woman isn’t over him yet and couldn’t adjust to life
after divorce properly.
• The angry or
difficult ex-wife. This is the most challenging
type of ex-wives. She is rude, resentful or jealous. She probably is going to
badmouth you in front of him and others including the children. She might go as
far as harassing you or trying to keep him from seeing his children.
Recognizing what
type of ex-wife he has, is crucial for you to assess the relationship and how to
deal with the challenges you might have to face.
Rule 2. Be polite.
Although your
partner should be the one communicating with his ex-wife, you might find
yourself in a place where you have to deal with her too. No matter what type of
exes she is, you won’t be always able to avoid answering the phone or opening
the door for her. Try to be polite with her and keep a businesslike attitude.
With such a neutral attitude, she won’t have any excuses to be rude. If this
isn’t working with her, simply cut her off. If she’s being rude, hang up the
phone and close your door. Any bad behavior from her part would only show how
pitty she’s being.
Rule 3. Minimize her involvement.
One of the main
reasons why dealing with an absent or a polite ex-wife is easy, is because
she’s rarely around if involved at all. However, an ever-present or an angry or
difficult ex-wife is around too much. The good news is that your partner has
control over that. He can minimize her involvement by doing the following:
• If they have
children, he should encourage her to phone only for child-related issues. If
she isn’t taking the hint, he should be more explicit.
• He should ask
her to use e-mail more often.
• He should have
her calls on his cell phone instead on the house’s phone.
• He should
encourage her to find someone else to help with her personal problems.
It’s important
for him to make these changes in order for the relationship to work. Otherwise,
you’ll constantly feel invaded and eventually resentful for having a
relationship with a man who has another woman in his life.
Rule 4. Establish boundaries.
Lack of
boundaries equals troubles. Establishing boundaries will help you feel less
invaded and run over. And unlike with soon-to-be-separated men and divorcing
men, with a divorced man, boundaries are much clearer.
• Your
relationship with him is yours. Once the relationship gets
serious, you should take priority over his ex. Even if they remained friends,
he should make it clear to her and to you, that you’re his priority. This
applies even when they have children together.
• Your home is
yours. Once you move in together, he should make it clear to
his ex-wife, that the house is yours and she can’t go in as if it was her
house.
• The kids are
hers. No matter how close you become with the kids, they
are still hers and you should let him and his ex handle them. It’ll take some
pressure off of you and it’ll also show the kids that you’re not trying to take
their mother’s place.
• The ex is his. You shouldn’t
find yourself in a place where you need to deal with his ex, other than
occasionally greeting her on the phone when she calls or when you run into each
other. Even when he doesn’t want to talk to her and is trying to avoid
answering her calls, it should never put you in a place where you have to deal
with her. Let him handle it.
Rule 5. Protect yourself.
Especially when
it comes to the angry or difficult type of ex-wives, you’ll need to protect
yourself from any kind of threatening behavior. Whether she’s harassing you by
e-mails or phone calls or at your home, you need to protect yourself by keeping
track of this behavior and having evidence you can take to the police in case
she went too far. Even if the evidence isn’t enough to charge her or to warrant
a restraining order, you’ve begun a paper trail that will provide a basis in
case she continues her behavior.
Rule 6. Be curious, not obsessive.
When it comes to
dating a divorced man, it’s only natural to be curious about the ex-wife. what
kind of person she was and what she looks like. Knowing why things didn’t work
out for them, might help you make things work out for you. However, be careful
not to start comparing yourself to her and become obsessive about it. Signs
such as refusing to meet her and trying to avoid any contact with her, or
resenting her, or feeling extremely uncomfortable with the fact that he’s still
in touch with her or keeping any old photos and most importantly, constantly
comparing yourself to her, these signs might indicate that you’re becoming
obsessive. In this case, you need to do the following
• Set boundaries
that will make you comfortable enough, such as no contact beyond child-related
issues.
• Remember that
she helped your partner become the person he is today, i.e., someone who wants
to be with you.
• Think about
what you have to offer to him. If you believe that you can’t make him happy,
then why be with him in the first place.
Dealing with his children.
A relationship
with a man with kids are much different than a relationship with a man without
kids. Children provide enough challenge to give the relationship a high
difficulty index. Children don’t just require care and support, but they also
can force people to change the way they think, behave, and live. This effect
largely depends on custody and parenting time. These two terms, oftentimes are
used interchangeably. However, they aren’t the same thing.
Custody means
who has the legal right to decide how the child should be raised including,
what school he goes to, where he should live and what doctor he should see.
On the other
hand, parenting time refers to the percentage of time each parent gets with the
child after the divorce. The traditional setup is that the mother has sole
custody of the child and the father would have a certain percentage of
parenting time such as every other weekend. However, courts are beginning to
acknowledge fathers’ rights and are giving them more parenting time. So, you
can meet divorced men with joint custody and with parenting time closer to 40
or 50 percent.
Problems with dating a man with children. Problem 1. They don’t like you.
However excited
you might be meet his children, they might not be as happy to meet you. They
might seem uninterested, ignore you and even treat you disrespectfully. They
might be grieving the divorce, or they might simply be slow to warm up to
people. However, if they seem to be constantly rude and disrespectful, then
that might reflect poor parenting.
Problem 2. You don’t like them.
There are
several reasons why you might not like his children. You might think that they’re
bratty children, especially when they’re constantly rude and disrespectful.
Also, you might not be fond of children altogether. Some people only want their
own kids. If you feel this way, don’t get involved with a man with children.
The kids will suffer because they’re with someone who doesn’t like them. The
dad will suffer because he cares for his children and you don’t. and you too
will suffer because you’re stuck dealing with his children.
Problem 3. The children come first.
Although this
sounds logical and understandable, many women fail to realize the impact of the
statement “the children come first”. This might mean that he can’t go with you
to Paris and blow off his child’s school play, and it might also mean, that
you’ll always, in his heart, come second to his children. However, if the
relationship becomes serious, you should never take second place when it comes
to his heart and time. If you get involved with a man who tells you upfront
that his children will always come first, know that this might be a reflection
of his own guilt. Which isn’t exactly healthy for him or for his children who
will eventually lose respect for him as they sense that he’s trying too hard to
earn their love.
Rules for dealing with a man with children. Rule 1. Take things slowly.
Before you meet
the children, you need to wait until you move from the dating phase into a
serious relationship that offers a sense of stability. Once you meet them, take
your time getting to know them. In other words, don’t try too hard and don’t
try to buy their affection.
Rule 2. Adjust your expectations.
Unless he plays
a small role in his children’s lives, his children will have a considerable
impact on his life and will affect the time you spend with him. He simply
doesn’t have as much freedom as the childless man. also, you might not find
yourself included when he spends his time with his children, which is only
normal as the children will need alone time with their father. So if you’re fun
of weekends away and dinners out, you might have to reconsider the
relationship.
Rule 3. Accept only respect.
Some women are
treated poorly when they first meet their partner’s children, and even after a
while. A man who lets his children treat you poorly isn’t just a poor father,
but also a poor partner. Children should be taught to respect others. Don’t
settle for less than respect and set the example by always treating them
respectfully.
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