10 Steps You Can Follow Now to Change Your Life Forever

A decision to make a change is information acted on. So no matter how good the information you’re getting, how many books you’re reading and how much you’re paying for the information, until you act on it and decide to use it, it’s worthless and the change you’re seeking won’t happen. Below is a list of steps that if acted on can make the change you’ve always wanted.

1. Raise your standards:

If you want to change your life, the first thing you’ve got to do is to raise your standards; what you no longer accept in your life and what you’re aspiring to achieve. Write them down and reread them every now and then, make sure you’re choosing your daily actions and thoughts according to those standards.

2. Change your limiting beliefs:

Before changing your standards and setting goals for yourself, you need to believe that you can meet those standards and achieve those goals. Beliefs, are what shapes our thoughts and actions, and not changing your limiting beliefs wouldn’t get anywhere no matter how high you raise your standards and how many goals you set for yourself. Before you do it, you’ll need to believe that you can do it.

3. Change your strategy:

If you can set a goal for yourself and believe that you can do it, then you certainly will figure out the strategy that will get you there. The best thing you can is to have a role model in front of you, someone who already did it and then try to tap into their knowledge.

4. Keep in mind that we create the circumstances and it’s not the circumstances that create us:

Some people were born with advantages; genetic, family, relationship and some weren’t, but that won’t determine one’s destiny. We’ve all heard of people who succeeded against all odds, and they’re actually the frequent and greatest successes. To shape your own destiny, you’ll need to take the decision, not to change, but to commit to that change and take action on it. Because it’s easy to wish, yet it’s hard to take action on what you wish to become a reality.

Especially, be aware of the excuses you keep feeding your mind and that are limiting your beliefs, like how you had a hard childhood, or have been bullied, or didn’t get the best education or that you’re too old or too young…
“We are taught you must blame your father, your sisters, your brothers, the school, the teachers - but never blame yourself. It's never your fault. But it's always your fault, because if you wanted to change you're the one who has got to change.”

― Katharine Hepburn, Me: Stories of My Life

5. Make a decision:

A decision is all you need for the change you want, when someone wants to quit smoking he would know better than to fool himself into smoking one last cigarette. Making a decision requires a strong will power, and this will power is something you develop by working out. In order to master the art of making decisions and changing your life, you need to make more decisions. Start with the small matters, the easy decisions you can make.

6. Commit yourself to long-term solutions rather than short term fixes:

While long term solutions might be time consuming, it’s often better than opting for short term fixes, that’s because the latter might cause you long term problems. Instead of opting for fast food, might be ideal to save some time, but what people don’t consider is the overweight and health problems they’ll be dealing with later. While letting your children spend their day in front of the TV might sound good especially if the parent is too busy, what he isn’t considering is the trouble it may cause the children like not being able to pay much attention at school or a decrease in his ability to learn and think.

7. Learn from your decisions:

When you make a wrong decision and fail, don’t beat yourself up about it. Simply, ask yourself what went wrong and what could’ve done to make this work, learn from those mistakes and start over again. You won’t be back to where you were, because you’ve learned something and that’s a step you made.

8. Stay committed to your decisions, but stay flexible in your approach:

What you’re really seeking from the decisions you’re making is the result and not the means to get to that result, and while you need to stay focused on the result, that doesn’t mean to stick to the means, whenever you felt like a new way would be more efficient, you can always switch to it.

9. Be aware of the pain and pleasure factor:

People do the things they enjoy and brings them pleasure and tend to do less of what gives them pain, only pain and pleasure is relative and it’s based on your perception, so if you decide to see working out as a pleasurable activity that makes you feel good about yourself, then you won’t find it hard to work out, but if you link it to pain, then no wonder you’ll be struggling every week to work out and to find the motivation to do so. So whenever you want to start doing something, link it with pleasure, how good it’ll make you feel about yourself and how good the outcomes will be.

10. Remember that it’s not what happened to you, but your interpretation of what happened to you:

A man who had been through a difficult childhood, might make it an excuse not to succeed in his life and decides that he’s too broken to achieve anything. Another man with almost the same circumstances, might decide that he’ll succeed despite his hard childhood and he’ll make sure he gives a better one for his kids. In the end, it’s not the circumstances that makes you, but your interpretation and perception of those circumstances.

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