16 Quotes From After You By Jojo Moyes You Need To Read While Moving On
The best books,
are the ones that speak to us best. The ones we can relate to most. It almost feels
like you found someone who understands you, and it’s the best feeling ever. You
realize that you’re not alone in this, for we need to be told, every now and
then, that what we’re feeling, what we’re experiencing is normal.
Below are some
quotes from After You by Jojo Moyes you need to read if you’re grieving and
trying to move on.
#1.
#1.
“How could I convey
the way those short months had changed the way I felt about everything? The way
he had skewed my world so totally that it made no sense without him in it? And
when it came down to it, what was the point in reexamining your sadness all the
time anyway? It was like picking at a wound and refusing to let it heal. I knew
what I had been part of. I knew what my role was. What was the point in going
over and over it?”
– After you- Jojo Moyes
#2.
“On evenings
like this, when the streets below were filled with couples strolling, and
laughing people spilled out of pubs, already planning meals, nights out, trips
to clubs, something ached inside me; something primal telling me that I was in
the wrong place, that I was missing something. These were the moments when I
felt most left behind.”
– After you- Jojo Moyes
#3.
“I knew very
well how the persona you chose to present to the world could be very different
from what was inside. I knew how grief could make you behave in ways you
couldn’t even begin to understand.”
– After you- Jojo Moyes
#4.
“Here’s a real
question. How long do you think it takes to get over someone dying? Someone you
really loved, I mean.’….
‘… I’m not sure you ever do.’
‘That’s cheery.’
‘No. Really. I’ve thought about it a lot. You learn to live with it, with them. Because they do stay with you, even if they’re not living, breathing people any more. It’s not the same crushing grief you felt at first, the kind that swamps you, and makes you want to cry in the wrong places, and get irrationally angry with all the idiots who are still alive when the person you love is dead. It’s just something you learn to accommodate. Like adapting around a hole. I don’t know. It’s like you become … a doughnut instead of a bun.’”
‘… I’m not sure you ever do.’
‘That’s cheery.’
‘No. Really. I’ve thought about it a lot. You learn to live with it, with them. Because they do stay with you, even if they’re not living, breathing people any more. It’s not the same crushing grief you felt at first, the kind that swamps you, and makes you want to cry in the wrong places, and get irrationally angry with all the idiots who are still alive when the person you love is dead. It’s just something you learn to accommodate. Like adapting around a hole. I don’t know. It’s like you become … a doughnut instead of a bun.’”
– After you- Jojo Moyes
#5.
“Sometimes I
felt as if we were all wading around in grief, reluctant to admit to others how
far we were waving or drowning.”
– After you- Jojo Moyes
#6.
“It was what we
all wanted, ultimately, to be freed from our grief. To be released from this
underworld of the dead, half our hearts lost underground, or trapped in little
porcelain urns. It felt good to have something positive to say for once.”
– After you- Jojo Moyes
#7.
“And then the
stupid hot tears would leak out of my stupid eyes and I would screw them up and
tell myself that this was what you got for letting anyone close. Depression, we
had learned in the group, loves a vacuum. Far better to be doing, or at least
planning. Sometimes the illusion of happiness could inadvertently create
it.”
– After you- Jojo Moyes
#8.
“no journey out
of grief was straightforward. There would be good days and bad days. Today was
just a bad day, a kink in the road, to be traversed and survived.”
– After you- Jojo Moyes
#9.
“I gazed around me, like someone suddenly
handed clear glasses, and saw that pretty much everyone bore the brutal imprint
of love, whether lost, whipped away from them or simply vanished into a
grave.”
– After you- Jojo Moyes
#10.
“The only way to
avoid being left behind was to start moving.”
–
After you- Jojo Moyes
#11.
“I think people
get bored of grief…It’s like you’re allowed some unspoken allotted time—six
months maybe—and then they get faintly irritated that you’re not ‘better,’ like
you’re being self-indulgent hanging on to your unhappiness.”
– After you- Jojo Moyes
#12.
“You live. And
you throw yourself into everything and try not to think about the
bruises.”
–
After you- Jojo Moyes
#13.
“So here is the
thing about being involved in a catastrophic, life-changing event. You think
it’s just the catastrophic life-changing event that you’re going to have to
deal with: the flashbacks, the sleepless nights, the endless running over
events in your head, asking yourself if you had done the right thing, said the
things you should have said, whether you could have changed things, had you
done it even a degree differently.”
–
After you- Jojo Moyes
#14.
“When someone we
love is snatched from us, it often feels very hard to make plans. Sometimes
people feel like they have lost faith in the future,”
–
After you- Jojo Moyes
#15.
“I told myself firmly that it was just a
feeling, the echo of an anxiety. I could overcome it, just as I would overcome
everything else.”
–
After you- Jojo Moyes
#16.
“None of us
moves on without a backward look. We move on always carrying with us those we
have lost. What we aim to do in our little group is ensure that carrying them
is not a burden that feels impossible to bear, a weight keeping us stuck in the
same place. We want their presence to feel like a gift. ‘And what we learn
through sharing our memories and our sadnesses and our little victories with
each other is that it’s okay to feel sad. Or lost. Or angry. It’s okay to feel
a whole host of things that other people might not understand, and often for a
long time. Everyone has his or her own journey. We don’t judge… ‘And that,
impossible as it may feel at first, we will each get to a point where we can
rejoice in the fact that every person we have discussed and mourned and grieved
over was here, walking among us – and whether they were taken after six months
or sixty years, we were lucky to have them.’”
–
After you- Jojo Moyes
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