8 Truths About Long-Term Relationships You Should Know

A long term relationship is a long road both of you will walk, sometimes you'll be walking hand in hand other times you'll be keeping a distance, in the end what matters most is the true love

I loved my partner from the depth of my heart, we loved each other, each one is his own way. Though we're different, we agree on this love. We fight and we break up, but we get back, for that love is pulling us again, As the time passes the flame would only grow brighter, and each time we fight we get back much quicker. Below are some facts about Long-term relationship:

1- It's not that complicated, at least not the way you think it is: When you have a second look, you'll find out that ain't no problems, all that you have to do is to fit in instead of trying to fix it the way you think it should be, it's something shared, it's not only about you, you can't fix it,  all that you need to do is maintain it.

Every relationship is complicated, but you have to understand each other and meet your partner halfway. If you want to solve any problem in your relationship, get to know your partner furthermore, because often problems are just misunderstandings.

2- Your insecurities are standing in the way:

Don't prejudge each others' actions, don't let insecurities blind you from seeing your loved one with an eye of affection, and each time you're tempted to think low about him, try to hear his part of the story first.

Always open a door for communication, relationships has nothing to do with pride, it's nothing but insecurities, you can save your pride for other people but when it comes to your soulmate, don't build walls, you don't even need it, but build bridges between you two, nothing is worse than a misunderstanding between the both of you, always give your relationship a second chance.

3- Gratitude is a key:

To have your partner support is a gift, and not a right, or something you owe him, so you might as well show gratitude.

Focus on the good, each moment, he isn't perfect, and he won't be, so rest! but if you love him enough then it is already enough to make you the happiest.

4- We love them because they're imperfect:

You might think that you love your partner for his qualities, but no, that way you only like him, but deep love is when you love his imperfections, because that's what makes him special, that's what makes him the one for you.

When I first saw my broken phone screen, I thought that I'm done with it and that I need to have a new one, even if it still works just fine. A scar was the end of it, but then I didn't change it, and with time I loved it even more with its scar, for that scar made it special for me, now my point is that you don't need a perfect partner, perfection is boring. All that you need is an imperfect partner that makes you feel like you're the luckiest girl in the world.   

5- Think twice before you blame your partner for whatever treatment you're getting: 

I know that partly it's about him, about the person he is, if he's rude then he'll show out his rudeness, but then, another part has to do with the person you are, we love to be treated like princesses, but won't we be princesses in the first place first! you're not that perfect after all.

6- Always show care, even when you don't feel like it:

In a long-term relationship, you won't feel always like holding tight, or fighting for your love, you might lose excitement about your relationship sometimes, there, you don't have to show it off, keep the negative for yourself and do what you have to do, keep your drama to yourself, positivity always pays, negativity never does. 

7- Don't act silent-aggressive: 

It's okay to tell your partner about your feelings, ain't no shame in feeling jealous or insecure, the shame is to let it ruin your relationship.

If something is bothering you, go direct and tell him. I know that sometimes we don't get excited about the idea of opening about something because we fear rejection, we feel ashamed about it, or maybe we think that they won't understand us, but give it try, it's always better to communicate than to act silent-agressive hoping that they will understand that something is wrong, they won't, unless you communicate.

8- If you're not happy when you're single, you won't be when you're in a relationship:

I needed someone to talk to, I've got absolutely no one, for sometime I thought that someday I'll be having that one special person, with whom I won't have to feel lonely anymore, with whom I'll be sharing my life, my dreams, my thoughts, my feelings, so that I won't have to feel bad, because he'll lift my mood, and so that I won't feel this lonely, I won't have problems or hard times because he'll be there for me, but no, it isn't supposed to be like that!

It took me a long time to understand that happiness would never come from anything but me, that I'm the only one who's in charge of the way I feel. And most of all I have to stand for myself, to face my problems by myself and to be fully independant.

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