How to Heal and Move On from a Broken Heart (8 Steps To Heal Your Broken Heart)

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It's not about being hurt as much as it is about getting up again and not letting pain prevent up from enjoying our lives again. Cry as much as you need, but never cry again for the same reason.

Below are 8 steps to help you overcome a heartbreak!

#1. Accept The Present.

This means acknowledging the feelings that come with the breakup, and allowing yourself to feel sad and to grieve your loss. Repressing your negative emotions and pretending that everything is okay will prevent you from healing your wounds and moving on.

#2. Learn From The Past.

Although reflecting on one’s past experiences is a powerful tool to learn and gain insights that can help your future relationships, it’s also easy to get trapped into self-blame and regret. This is why you need to let some time pass before you go over the experience and figure out what went wrong. Once you’re done grieving and your logic isn’t clouded by negative emotions anymore, you can reflect on your experience and decide what needs to be changed and what figure out what lessons can be learned.

 #3. Be Aware Of Your Thoughts.

An unfortunate experience, such as a breakup, can leave you with lots of negative thoughts that can create a downward spiral. To change the negative thoughts pattern, you’ll need to first become aware of them. Whenever you find yourself thinking negatively, try to think of an alternative - a positive thought, and dwell on it. This doesn’t mean that one shouldn’t feel the negative emotions and grieve, quite the opposite, one shouldn’t repress these emotions, but sadness and negativity aren’t the same. While it’s a shame that you’ve broken up, that same experience doesn’t make you less of a person. You’re still worthy of love and happiness.

#4. Set Some Goals.

You might have planned your future around your partner, in that case, you don’t only mourn losing your partner, but also the future you’ve planned. The good news is that you can always make new plans, with more possibilities. Setting goals and planning is a great way to feel excited about life again.

#5. Do What Makes You Happy.

Everyone has a passion or passions. Figure out the things that you love and do best. Keeping yourself busy by doing what you love will distract you from having negative thoughts while moving on.

#6. Write It Down.

Writing down your thoughts helps you get them out of your mind and enables you to see things a lot clearer. Some people use journaling to express their thoughts and emotions, and that makes them feel much better, but you can also share those feelings with a close friend who is willing to support you and show empathy. If you can’t think of someone you can trust, you can use 7cups of tea. It’ll provide you with trained listeners who are willing to lend you a caring ear.

#7. Give It Some Time.

Stop worrying about it, time will heal everything, no matter how hard it was for you, no matter how long it's going to take from you to move on. Believe that one day you'll wake up and you won't have to feel bad about it anymore.

#8. Help Others.

Helping people and being able to see the difference you can make in their life, be it small or big, will help boost your self-esteem. Helping others alleviate your stress, anxiety, and pain by taking your mind away from focusing on your source of pain.

There will always be better love around the corner, so don’t stop believing in love.

“When those you love deeply reject you, leave you, or die, your heart will be broken. But that should not hold you back from loving deeply. The pain that comes from deep love makes your love ever more fruitful.” - Henri Nouwen

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