5 Great Ways To Deal With Judgments

It's pretty normal to meet toxic people through your life, just know that it isn't about you, it's about them, it's about their insecurities, because everyone would show what is inside of him, haters would show hate, and mature people would show maturity! 

Although I wanted to be kind, to help people, and to never do harm, that wasn't enough for them, they were judging me, and they're going to judge no matter what you're going to do, so decide what you truly want, Do you want to spend the rest of your life pleasing people or doing what you love?! well below are some simple ways to help you deal with judgments:

1- Don't respond: 

In fact we can't control people's reaction, the only thing that you can control is your own and the best reaction here is to not make any! You will never reach your destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks. 

People aren't against you, they are for themselves. People don't want you to be better than them, and that's why they'll keep judging you. You don't have to comment, don't respond to their rudeness, that would shut them down, because they only keep judging when you show that you're interested in what they're saying, but when you ignore them, they won't be able to criticize any further.

2- Self-compassion: 

We often tend to defend ourselves once we feel like we're about to get hurt, this desire is fake, yet it affects us a lot. This desire, you can replace it with self-compassion, consider your worth and your value and that you don't need anyone's approval, you don't need to be liked by all of them. Live your life on your own expectations, don't make pleasing people a priority.
Your value doesn't decrease based on someone's inability to see your worth.

Sometimes you don't really need to get into every single fight, sometimes it's better to choose peace, when you know your worth, there is no necessity to prove it because you don't need others' approval and no one can make you doubt yourself.

3- Don't take judgement too seriously: 

Sometimes you don't need to defend yourself, sometimes you don't have to prove anything to anyone, but when you try to defend yourself each time, you'll become more and more irritated about it, instead ignore them. Sometimes we can't just avoid people that are judging us, because they're our family or other people that we have to deal with, and it's okay, if you can't avoid them, then just let go of their judgments.

4- Never look back and never blame anyone: 

Sometimes we think that when we blame people they will change and they won't do it again, actually we can't decide for them to change or not, if they're going to change then they'll do it by themselves not because we wanted them to or we told them to, and it's about not expecting anything from anyone, not even to be well treated because it has never been about you rather it's about them, about their character.

5- Change something: 

When judgment excess, you should know that there's something that needs to be changed, not necessary you, but maybe the way you're treating people. being judged is an opportunity to change ,because with being comfortable with the way you are, you won't feel like there's something wrong about you that needs to be changed, but first you need to know that you have a part that is changeable and another one that is unchangeable, don't let others confuse you between these two parts, the unchangeable is your individuality, what makes you unique, different and it's what your value is all about, your dreams, the way you look, your thoughts and beliefs... These no one should make you change it, if you ever wanted to change then make sure that it would be by nobody influence. But what's changeable, is the way you treat people, the way you talk to them, 
For both cases, never change for the way people want you to do! never make a change to please people!

It's ok to be judged, because it's not always true, you know yourself better than anyone else, so just ask yourself it was true about you, if it is not, don't push yourself to believe it! just let it go. Remember that their opinion, is not your reality. 

What hurts the most is being disappointed by your most loved ones, the ones that promised to be always by your side, but sometimes it isn't about you, it's about them, they may have some circumstances and you need to excuse them and to try to understand them, you can't blame anyone for your disappointment but yourself, because you're the one who shouldn't expect anything from anyone at the first place.

Listen, smile, agree. and then do whatever you were going to do anyway.

I've been doubted, judged and criticized a lot, especially by my very loved ones, they would push me to be the way they want me to be, they would push me to give up on who I am and on what I believe in, but in the end no one really knows you as much as you do, and no one should make you doubting yourself, you're capable even if no one did believe in you, you're strong enough even if no one is standing by you! There are many successful people out there, who didn't find anyone to believe in them, they've been doubted, called crazy, rejected, criticized and judged, yet they never gave up on what they believed in, that's why they made it, and so you can! 
Don't let anyone's ignorance, hate, drama or negativity stop you from being the best person you can be.

People will keep judging you unless, you do nothing, say nothing and be nothing, so be cool with that, instead you should worry when people aren't judging you because that means that you've been like the majority of them! 

So take it lightly, very lightly, there is a huge amount of freedom that comes to you when you take nothing personally, anyway they don't know what your journey is all about and everything is better when you decide that you don't care.

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