Loud Life

Our thoughts make our lives, this is why when one wants to change his life, he needs to start by changing his thoughts. It sounds easy, but it's quite hard to let go of limiting beliefs and believing that you deserve whatever you want to attract. Only when you decide to let go of those limiting beliefs and that you can be open to attract abundance. Below is a list of things to attract using the law of attraction:



1. Happiness : 

You can have everything people are striving to have in this life and it won’t mean a thing to you if you’re not happy, and you can have nothing and you won’t feel like you’re missing on anything if you’re happy. This is why happiness should come first because happiness comes from within and not from buying and having.

For that, keep a smile on your face, this is not fooling yourself, it’s a message for the universe that you’re ready for happiness and that you want more. Think positively, trade those negative thoughts with positive ones. Simply put, happiness won’t come on its own, you’ll create it.




2. Wealth: 

Wealth is the mean the get you what you need to live comfortably and help you achieve your dreams. To attract wealth you’ll need first to eliminate all negative beliefs about money. Such beliefs had been nurtured since a young age by people surrounding us telling us that money is evil or that rich people are selfish. Instead, focus on all the good things that you can do with that wealth. Even being able to provide for the people you love is a great dead money can allow you to do.

Creating a vision board can be helpful when wealth is what you want to attract, by posting pictures of what you want to buy. Keep the board where you can see it.




3. Love: 

Love is the most powerful emotion, this is why love is so important to people that they let doubt and insecurities hold them back from attracting it. People would think that they’re not good enough for such a powerful emotion. To get out of this negative pattern, start by allowing positive feelings about love in. Visualize not only a partner but especially visualize yourself with your partner and feel that happiness of being with him and being loved.




4. Friends: 

We are social creatures, even introverts who don’t give friendships a priority, they still need friends, the right friends. Many of the negative beliefs that hold us from having healthy friendships, can go back to negative experiences of being betrayed or disappointed, which can never mean that any friend you’ll have will do the same. Visualize yourself surrounded by faithful friends, feel the joy and excitement of doing things together, feel the relief of being supported by a friend.




5. Passion: 

A passion is what keeps us going, it’s what makes us feel alive. What keeps us from following this passion and allowing it to thrive in our lives, is mostly judgments from people and then those judgments shape our beliefs about what we’re passionate about. If it’s something constructive and doing you and possibly others good, then go for it. Visualize yourself successful and happy doing this passion. You don’t have to figure out the process, it’ll figure itself, all you need to do is to see the end result.





6. Your dream home: 

It might seem like it’ll take ages to get your dream home especially if you’re setting the bars high, but be patient and believe. Visualize yourself living in that home, feel the gratefulness of living there. Then, start imagining all the details you want in that home, post the pictures of the rooms you want on your vision board.




7. Business: 

Attracting business is possible using the law of attraction. All you have to do is see the end result, see yourself successful and owning your own business. The process will figure itself, the universe will guide through it all. Even when a door shuts down and you think that it’s over, you’ll find that that door shutting down on you had led you to the right door for you. Don’t obsess about the progress, keep the success in front of you and do what you have to do.



8. Repairing relationships: 

We all agree that an abusive or toxic relationship isn’t worthy of saving, but for the other cases, it’s quite normal for a relationship to turn sour over time especially if no effort is dedicated to rekindling the flame. Negativity will only attract more negativity, for that if you want for things to change, you’ll have to see the positive things often. Remember why you entered the relationship in the first place and visualize yourself sharing the best time of your life with your partner. Feel again those feelings you had at the beginning of the relationship and tell yourself that more of those moments are coming.



9. Good health:

It has been proven that our thoughts can determine how healthy we live. Patients who thought they were sick and were prescribed a placebo pill thinking that it’s real medicine, had actually recovered just by believing that those pills are going to cure their illness. You can do the same for your health, refrain from thinking about being unhealthy in any way, and instead think about how healthy you are right now. Fill your life with healthy habits that will give you a healthy life in return. Believing that good nutrition or exercising will benefit your body will make it the case.



10. Getting along with others:

You don’t have to be friends with everybody out there, but getting along with others definitely will make it easier, whether they were your colleagues at work, your neighbors… it’s always easier to have someone with whom you can have a small talk and actually feel at ease around him. Keep a smile on your face, and always try to be patient and polite. Keep in mind that we all have our own struggles.




11. Losing weight:

When you need to lose some weight, you might be willing to try every method in order to find the one that will work for you, but here’s what no website or personal coach tells you; you need to believe that you can and that you’ll lose weight. With that belief, any method will work charms. To help feed those beliefs, all you have to do is to act as if you’re losing weight already and you’re getting almost to your ideal weight, look at the mirror and admire your body, feel the excitement of losing weight, see yourself fitting in the size you want. Remember you see what you believe and what you believe becomes your reality.




12. Gaining respect:

It’s important to be respected if you want to be taken seriously. And although respect seems like something that you have no control over since it comes from other people, it ironically starts internally. Only when you believe that you deserve all the respect, that you’ll be giving out that confident vibe and people can only show you respect. It’s reflected back to you. The best way to gain respect is to start with others and imagine yourself having lots of respect towards them, then imagine that respect reflected back.




13. Eliminating social anxiety:

Humans are highly social beings and thrive when they’re able to socialize without anxieties. The causes of social anxiety vary, people might feel threatened to be judged or humiliated by others. The key to getting rid of those thoughts is to see the similarities between people, we all struggle, and we all have our own battles. The fact those fears and struggles don’t show up often doesn’t mean that they don’t exist and that others’ life is easy or easier than yours. Visualize yourself being comforted by the presence of others, visualize yourself connecting with them and feeling their struggles.




14. Improving your family life:

We don’t get to chose our family, but this is what love is about. You don’t love someone because you get along with, you love him despite not getting along with. Family is an important part of who you are, and it’s always best to make peace with them. Certainly, it takes more than doing your part, but it can be you who makes the first moves. Feel the love for your family and act positively, always try to be kind and helpful.



15. Going on your dream vacation:

A vacation is needed every now and then, and if you’re going to go on one, then why not go on your dream one. Set your bars high and dream about the places you want to visit. Post pictures of those places on your vision board where you can see it and visualize yourself enjoying your time in them.

We’re not the outcome of the circumstances, but circumstances are the outcome of our thoughts. Controlling thoughts might sound hard to do, but with some practice, you can master the law of attraction and make the changes you want to happen.



1- Have a clear end result:

To achieve any goal, to attract anything, all you need to do is keep your focus on the end result. The universe will take care of the process, you don’t have to think about all the steps you need to take, the people you need to meet. Just focus on your end result, see yourself achieving that goal and let the universe bring all the opportunities to your way.



2- Move towards your goals:

After imagining your end result, you’ll need to move in the general direction of those goals. Still, you don’t have to figure out the process, just take the opportunity as it comes, do what anyone striving to achieve that goal is doing. If you want to become the best player, practice like anyone who wants to be a successful player is practicing. What will make the difference is being able to see yourself successful?




3- Keep in mind that progress is almost invisible:

Making the effort and not being able to see the progress can be quite discouraging. What people don’t consider is that progress is almost invisible. Until you reach your destination it won’t feel like the miles you drove was any progress. Trust yourself and the universe and always know that even when turned down from something, the universe might be leading you to something even better.




4- Visualize once a day:
Let this be an exercise to visualize what you want to attract and then let it go, which means don’t attach yourself to it or obsess about it by demanding it to the point that they become impatient and discouraged. This is why, the right way to do it is to visualize with lots of gratitude, as if you already have it, whatever you want to attract. Of course, you can visualize more, but some tend to overdo it, thinking that if once is good, ten is better.




5- Feel the emotion:

Whenever you visualize, don’t just think it, but also feel it. If the thought makes you happy, smile broadly, if it makes you excited, jump from excitement. Go physical when visualizing.




6- Put yourself in the picture:

If a new car is what you want to attract, visualize yourself in it. See your hands clasping the steering wheel, see yourself driving it and feel the excitement. If a partner is what you want to attract, see yourself with him, see yourself hands in hands with him and feel the love.




7- Set the bars high:

The universe is rich and full of endless opportunities, so if you wanted a highly paid job, even though you’re jobless at the moment, wait for that desired job and don’t settle for any less, because you’ll as high as your bars are.




8. Eliminate doubt: 

While experiencing doubt is natural, allowing it to control your life isn’t. Nothing can hold you back from your dreams more than doubt. You need to stop questioning your desires and how high you can dream, and instead find all the reasons why it can work. Other people did the impossible, why can’t you?




9. Learn patience: 

Nothing changes overnight, and progress is invisible until things happen. So until then, learn how to be patient and not obsess about the result. Enjoy the process and don’t compare yourself or your life to others’.




10. be grateful:

The key to happiness is gratitude. You can have all the money and fame and without being grateful you won’t ever be happy, you’ll always be looking for something more. And you can have almost nothing and still feel completely satisfied and happy just by being grateful. One can feel sad because he couldn’t buy some fancy shoes, but if he’s to see someone who has no legs, those shoes won’t mean a thing compared to the blessing of having feet. Gratitude is important, not just for your happiness, but especially for allowing abundance into your life. The key to attract more is to let go of the neediness. Like a door that only opens when you stop pushing it.

1. Breathe deeply

2. Drink more water

3. Exercise more

4. Take the stairs every time there’s an option

5. Cherish your relationships

6. Make a cup of herbal tea

7. Take a hot bath with relaxing essential oils

8. Read a good book

9. Keep a journal

10. Play with a pet

11. Write down all the things you’re grateful for

12. Unfollow social media accounts that bring your self-esteem low

13. Prepare a healthy meal

14. Help someone

15. Declutter and donate what you don’t need

16. Watch less TV

17. Live on less than you make

18. Throw less waste (buy more in bulk and use less plastic)

19. Let go of the need to get even when someone hurts you

20. Wear your favorite outfits often

A decision to make a change is information acted on. So no matter how good the information you’re getting, how many books you’re reading and how much you’re paying for the information, until you act on it and decide to use it, it’s worthless and the change you’re seeking won’t happen. Below is a list of steps that if acted on can make the change you’ve always wanted.


1. Raise your standards:


If you want to change your life, the first thing you’ve got to do is to raise your standards; what you no longer accept in your life and what you’re aspiring to achieve. Write them down and reread them every now and then, make sure you’re choosing your daily actions and thoughts according to those standards.



2. Change your limiting beliefs:


Before changing your standards and setting goals for yourself, you need to believe that you can meet those standards and achieve those goals. Beliefs, are what shapes our thoughts and actions, and not changing your limiting beliefs wouldn’t get anywhere no matter how high you raise your standards and how many goals you set for yourself. Before you do it, you’ll need to believe that you can do it.





3. Change your strategy:


If you can set a goal for yourself and believe that you can do it, then you certainly will figure out the strategy that will get you there. The best thing you can is to have a role model in front of you, someone who already did it and then try to tap into their knowledge.





4. Keep in mind that we create the circumstances and it’s not the circumstances that create us:


Some people were born with advantages; genetic, family, relationship and some weren’t, but that won’t determine one’s destiny. We’ve all heard of people who succeeded against all odds, and they’re actually the frequent and greatest successes. To shape your own destiny, you’ll need to take the decision, not to change, but to commit to that change and take action on it. Because it’s easy to wish, yet it’s hard to take action on what you wish to become a reality.

Especially, be aware of the excuses you keep feeding your mind and that are limiting your beliefs, like how you had a hard childhood, or have been bullied, or didn’t get the best education or that you’re too old or too young…
“We are taught you must blame your father, your sisters, your brothers, the school, the teachers - but never blame yourself. It's never your fault. But it's always your fault, because if you wanted to change you're the one who has got to change.”

― Katharine Hepburn, Me: Stories of My Life


5. Make a decision:


A decision is all you need for the change you want, when someone wants to quit smoking he would know better than to fool himself into smoking one last cigarette. Making a decision requires a strong will power, and this will power is something you develop by working out. In order to master the art of making decisions and changing your life, you need to make more decisions. Start with the small matters, the easy decisions you can make.




6. Commit yourself to long-term solutions rather than short term fixes:


While long term solutions might be time consuming, it’s often better than opting for short term fixes, that’s because the latter might cause you long term problems. Instead of opting for fast food, might be ideal to save some time, but what people don’t consider is the overweight and health problems they’ll be dealing with later. While letting your children spend their day in front of the TV might sound good especially if the parent is too busy, what he isn’t considering is the trouble it may cause the children like not being able to pay much attention at school or a decrease in his ability to learn and think.





7. Learn from your decisions:


When you make a wrong decision and fail, don’t beat yourself up about it. Simply, ask yourself what went wrong and what could’ve done to make this work, learn from those mistakes and start over again. You won’t be back to where you were, because you’ve learned something and that’s a step you made.





8. Stay committed to your decisions, but stay flexible in your approach:


What you’re really seeking from the decisions you’re making is the result and not the means to get to that result, and while you need to stay focused on the result, that doesn’t mean to stick to the means, whenever you felt like a new way would be more efficient, you can always switch to it.



9. Be aware of the pain and pleasure factor:


People do the things they enjoy and brings them pleasure and tend to do less of what gives them pain, only pain and pleasure is relative and it’s based on your perception, so if you decide to see working out as a pleasurable activity that makes you feel good about yourself, then you won’t find it hard to work out, but if you link it to pain, then no wonder you’ll be struggling every week to work out and to find the motivation to do so. So whenever you want to start doing something, link it with pleasure, how good it’ll make you feel about yourself and how good the outcomes will be.






10. Remember that it’s not what happened to you, but your interpretation of what happened to you:



A man who had been through a difficult childhood, might make it an excuse not to succeed in his life and decides that he’s too broken to achieve anything. Another man with almost the same circumstances, might decide that he’ll succeed despite his hard childhood and he’ll make sure he gives a better one for his kids. In the end, it’s not the circumstances that makes you, but your interpretation and perception of those circumstances.

1. “Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”




2. “There is nothing I would not do for those who are really my friends. I have no notion of loving people by halves, it is not my nature.”




3. “Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.”




4. “We accept the love we think we deserve.”



5. “Love is like the wind, you can't see it but you can feel it.”

― Nicholas Sparks, A Walk to Remember

6. “You don't love someone because they're perfect, you love them in spite of the fact that they're not.”

― Jodi Picoult, My Sister's Keeper

7. “One is loved because one is loved. No reason is needed for loving.”




8. “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”

― Anonymous

9. “Where there is love there is life.”

― Mahatma Gandhi

10. “Nobody has ever measured, not even poets, how much the heart can hold.”






11. “There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.”

We can live a way more peaceful life if we only cared less. Below is a list of reasons why you need to start caring less:



1. Obsessing about being a better person, is a reminder of what we are not

Being so focused on the positive and on being better, serves mostly to remind you of what you are not and what you're lacking. A happy or a rich person doesn't wake up every morning repeating affirmations that he's happy or rich, he doesn't feel like he needs to prove it, he just is.



2. It's okay not to be perfect 

The world is constantly pushing you towards its standards. Social media makes us believe that others are leading perfect lives, which is not true because those people are choosing what to post and most likely they'll only show you their ups.



3. It's okay to feel down sometimes

We all want to be happy and feel good about ourselves, only life isn't perfect and it'll never be. it hasn't been for anyone and certainly, you're no exception. feeling sad or guilty or any unpleasant feeling is crucial sometimes. You don't know what happiness is until you experience sadness.
The problem isn't in feeling bad, it's rather feeling bad about feeling bad is the main problem. You feel guilty about feeling guilty and get angry about getting angry. that's because you care too much about feeling good at all times. Once you start caring less about the way you feel, you'll feel much better. Start telling yourself:" I feel sad. But hey, that's just life".



4. Accepting the negative experience is a positive experience: 

This is what the philosopher Alan Watts used to call "the backwards law". It means that The less you pursue feeling better, The more satisfied you become, as obsessing about being better is reminding you of what you're not.

On the other hand, pursuing the negative often generates the positive. Challenging your fears helps you build your courage. Enduring the pain of exercising results in the body you always wanted. Being open about your insecurities makes you even more confident and accepting of yourself.



5. Caring about people's opinion holds you from doing the right thing:

Caring less means to be comfortable with being different from the rest. So, whatever you feel right or important, do it and don't care about what people think or about facing failure or embarrassing yourself.




6. Caring less means more room to care about the important things:

Caring less doesn't mean to be indifferent about everything, it simply means caring mostly about what matters to you. It means choosing what's important to you, what matters you want to invest your energy and time into. And for that, you need to choose wisely.



7. You won't be happy when you achieve X or look like Y or be with a person like Z:

Happiness is unconditional, it comes from within and never from circumstances. At least not the true happiness. So you might as well care less about those circumstances.



8. You can't live a problem-free life:

Everyone has his own problems, even rich people do have problems. You might think of some problems as being bigger than others, but in fact, the size of the suffering isn't measured by how big the problem is. It all depends on the way the person perceives his problem.
Pain in life is inevitable, suffering is optional. And to overcome the pain, you need to learn how to deal with it. Caring less is the key.