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Jen Sincero's New York Time's Bestselling novel "You are a BADASS" is a must-read. Jen's words have been so inspiring that I found myself nodding and agreeing as I made my way through her book. The next ten lessons are inspired by her sayings that we have to learn multiple times:



1. Life is happening NOW


“If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present.”


“Your life is your party. You get to choose how you invite people and experiences and things into it.”



“Follow what feels good in the moment, every moment, and it will lead you through a most excellent life.”


“If you wanna stay stuck in the same place and keep getting spanked with the same lessons over and over, be negative, resentful, and victimized. If you want to get over your issues and rock your life, be grateful, look for the good and learn.”


2. Love yourself




“You aren’t a selfish person for taking care of yourself, just a happier one.” 



“When we’re happy and all in love with ourselves, we can’t be bothered with the bullshit (our own or other people’s).” 





“Love yourself more than you love your drama.” 





“Imagine what our world would be like if everyone loved themselves so much that they weren’t threatened by other people’s opinions or skin colors or sexual preferences or talents or education or possessions or lack of possessions or religious beliefs or customs or their general tendency to just be whoever the hell they are.”



“Never apologize for who you are. It lets the whole world down.”



“We are all perfect in our own, magnificent, fucked-up ways. Laugh at yourself. Love yourself and others. Rejoice in the cosmic ridiculousness.”



“There will never be anyone exactly like you. You were given special gifts and talents to share with the world, and even though everybody has special gifts and talents, nobody will use theirs quite the same way you do.”



“When you came screaming onto this planet you were truly a bundle of joy, a wide-eyed creature incapable of doing anything but being in the moment. You had no idea that you had a body, let alone that you should be ashamed of it. When you looked around, everything just was. There was nothing about your world that was scary or too expensive or so last year as far as you were concerned. If something came near your mouth, you stuck it in, if it came near your hand, you grabbed it. You were simply a human... being.”



3. Success takes time, effort but most importantly, courage


“Successful people have good habits; unsuccessful people have losery habits.” 




“Nobody gets to be large and in charge without facing challenges and moving through them.” 






“If you want more time in your life, show time some respect.” 




“All life is either moving forward and evolving or shrinking back and dying.” 




“If you’re serious about changing your life, you’ll find a way. If you’re not, you’ll find an excuse.”


“Nobody who ever accomplished anything big or new or worth raising a celebratory fist in the air did it from their comfort zone. They risked ridicule and failure and sometimes even death.”



“The only failure is quitting. Everything else is just gathering information.”



“maybe, if you put your disbelief aside, roll up your sleeves, take some risks, and totally go for it, you’ll wake up one day and realize you’re living the kind of life you used to be jealous”



“Because so often when we say we’re unqualified for something, what we’re really saying is that we’re too scared to try it, not that we can’t do it.”



“You need to go from wanting to change your life to deciding to change your life.”



“Deciding means jumping in all the way, doing whatever it takes, and going after your dreams with the tenacity of a dateless cheerleader a week before prom night.”


“Making a big fat deal out of anything is absurd. It makes much more sense to go afterlife with a sense of, “Why not?” instead of a furrowed brow. One of the best things I ever did was make my motto “I just wanna see what I can get away with.” It takes all the pressure off, puts the punk rock attitude in, and reminds me that life is but a game.”


4. Others’ opinion don’t define you


“Do not waste your precious time giving one single crap about what anybody else thinks of you.” 




“You are responsible for what you say and do. You are not responsible for whether or not people freak out about it.”


“What other people think about you has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them.”


5. Grudges cause pain



“The moment you decide to forgive and let your negative feelings melt away, you are on the road to freedom.” 




“Forgiveness is all about taking care of you, not the person you need to forgive. It’s about putting your desire to feel good before your desire to be right. It’s about taking responsibility for your own happiness instead of pretending it’s in somebody else’s hands. It’s about owning your power by giving all your anger, resentment, and hurt the heave-ho.”



“Holding on to my bad feelings about this is doing nothing but harming me, and everyone else, and preventing me from enjoying my life fully. I am an awesome person. I choose to enjoy my life. I choose to let this go.”






6. Happiness is a by-product of living a meaningful life



“Don’t just hand your life over to your circumstances like a little wuss.” 





“You aren’t a better person for feeling guilty or bad about yourself, just a sadder one.” 








7. Gratitude multiplies happiness



“Gratitude; the gateway drug to awesomeness.” 




“When you are consistently in a state of gratitude, and aware of all the awesomeness that already exists, it, among many other things, makes it much easier for you to believe that there’s more awesomeness where that came from, and that this yet-to-be-manifested awesomeness is also available to you. You’ve received awesomeness before, so of course, you can receive awesomeness again. This is how gratitude strengthens your faith. And having strong faith is a major key in transforming your life.”


“Every night before you go to bed, review your day and either write down or mentally note ten things you can be grateful for in your life. These can be everything from the beautiful flowers in your garden to the fact that your heart is beating to the hour-long visit from your persnickety neighbor that taught you to be happy that you don’t have her life. Stopping and noticing throughout the day all the things that you can be grateful for is a great way to keep your frequency high at all times. So try and remember to do it all day long, but at the very least, make it part of your evening routine.”

8. Your thoughts create your reality




“Our thoughts become our words, our words become our beliefs, our beliefs become our actions, our actions become our habits, and our habits become our realities.”





“Your reality is created by what you focus on and how you choose to interpret it.” 




“Whatever level of upgrade you want, it’s available to you, right now.” 




“Do not spend your life clinging to the insulting decisions you’ve made about yourself.” 





“We only get to be in our bodies for a limited time, why not celebrate the journey instead of merely riding it out until it’s over?”


“Take care of yourself as if you’re the most awesome person you’ve ever met.”





“Say nice things about your body, dress it up, and take it out. Give it hot sex, luxurious baths, and massages. Move it, stretch it, nourish it, hydrate it, pay attention to it—The better our bodies feel, the happier and more productive we are.”




“I can pretty much guarantee that every time you tearfully ask yourself the question, “WTF is my problem?!” the answer lies in some lame, limiting, and false subconscious belief that you’ve been dragging around without even realizing”




9. Your goals determine the quality of your life


“Lame, vague goals are the best way to live a lame, vague life.” 





“It makes much more sense to go after life with a sense of, ‘Why not?’ instead of a furrowed brow.” 




“Everything you do along your journey contributes to where you’re going.” 




“When we share what we were brought here to give, we are in alignment with our highest, most powerful selves.”



“Your job isn’t to know the how, it’s to know the what and to be open to discovering, and receiving, the how.”




10. Surround yourself with those who are going to lift you higher


“Hang out with people who are living on purpose, who meet their challenges with a step aside, suckers attitude, who are dating super awesome people, making exactly the kind of money they want to be making (or working toward it) or taking the kinds of vacations they, and you, want to be taking, and you’ll not only see what’s possible for you,”

“The people you surround yourself with are excellent mirrors for who you are and how much, or how little, you love yourself.”