5 Epic Tips To Get You Through Your Adulthood

It dawns on you once you become an adult, once you finish college and find yourself alone to decide for your future, that life is hard, not just for a period of time, and that it won’t get any easier. It goes like this, you go through some hard time, thinking that it’ll pass eventually, and it does, only to get you through an even harder time.

1- Take it lightly:

Many of us might feel, every now and then, some sense of responsibility toward someone else. It can be a parent, a partner, or even people you don’t know. You feel like something is expected from you, because you’ve been invested in; your parents had paid your intuition and fees for college, and you feel like you can’t fail them. So you have to do anything to succeed. Now this can be a great motivation to do something good, but at the same time, it shouldn’t push you more than you can bear, and you shouldn’t keep beating yourself up about the standards you think you should meet.

In the end, it doesn’t really matter whether you failed them or not, or whether you impressed them or not. You on the other hand, matter more. Your life, you have to live it up to your own standards. A life spent impressing others is wasted, and what’s the use of having a life if you’re not going to live it. So dare, make mistakes and learn, fail and try again. Don’t let anyone blame you or shame you for the choices you made. It’s your life, it’s your rules. It’s your choice, whether it sounded wise or not to other people, still, there’s no right choice out there, right or not, what does matter is that you’ve chosen.

2- Live in the moment:

While growing, and especially on those twenties’ when you’re full of life and dreams and when you’re all by yourself against the unknown, at some point, your life become full of stress and struggles. And you have the choice whether to stand there longing for your old life, when you had nothing to worry about, when future was a clear path to go through… or to accept the fact that life isn’t getting any easier and all you have to do now, is to shut the problems down, live in the moment and not worry anymore.

Because at some point you learn the hard way that worrying is useless. But oh! not just useless, it’s stealing away your life actually. Short as it is, you don’t need to spend your life worrying. There will always be time to worry, but never enough time to live truly and fully. After all what good is a life if not lived? So you open a good book, laugh heartedly and enjoy a runaway every now and then. Take the opportunities, because that’s all you have and all you need.

3- Have a purpose to live for:

When looking for a purpose for your life, you might end up finding out that it doesn’t matter how you live, or what you get or even who you are. What does really matter, is what you did with the life you got.

You come into this world and you’ll leave pretty soon. What change your existence has made! That’s what matters. So if you helped someone and made his life a little brighter, if you built something for someone, then you might as well say it out loud, “this day counts!”, and your life does matter because it made a difference, a good one.

4- Make your own happiness:

As you start looking for happiness, you try different mantras, and each time you find something that makes you happy, something that works. In the end, you figure out that there are many ways to happiness, gratitude, balance, helping others, feeling good about yourself, doing something you love, loving someone and being loved back, traveling, a good book, a good laugh… a lot to fill your days with. So find happiness in everything in your life.

5- Let yourself dream:

It’s a good thing to be realistic and not to expect much, for expectations brings in disappointments, but expectations aren’t all, the same. You can talk about disappointments when it comes to people, but when it comes to your own dreams, there’s no disappointments but experiences and mistakes to learn from. One can’t do something he can’t imagine doing, and the key to do anything is to think big. In your mind start from the finish line, imagine the success you’ll want to make, then go back through all the steps you’ll have to take to get to that finish line.

Before complaining about how tough and unfair life is to you, consider those who didn’t even got a life to live, who didn’t have a battle to fight. Those who are dying, who are living on treatments and waiting for their time to come. Consider how bad they wish they had a life never mind how hard that life might be. At least you still have a battle to fight, they have nothing at all.

Life isn’t fair, but then no one promised it will be fair. Life isn’t a “wish-granting factory”. It’s you who has to get tougher. You have to create your own exits and escapes, live in the moment and give up the urge to want to have everything sorted out.

Even when struggling and going through a hard time, remind yourself that your life is happening right now, wait no more for anything to pass over. Live now, because now is all you’ve got. You may not be living the best of your life, you might be going through exams, a stressing assignment at work… but even so, live up every moment you’ve got. Life isn’t getting any easier, there’s no problem-free, peaceful life, and it doesn’t have to be any of that. Enjoying yourself is about yourself, not life and circumstances.

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