2 years of a serious relationship, I thought he was my soulmate, the one. Things looked so perfect at the first page... I wonder if anything did change, but no, everything is the same, it's just the way we're seeing it that changed.
I didn't give much importance for some things at the beginning, love was blinding me, making me believe that both of us will change. But then nothing did change, every time it's the same things we argue about. I was sick from being called worthless, with an empty life, childish, stupid... it's not how love is supposed to be, it can't be love, he can't be loving me. And I'm sick from being sick, I needed to heal my soul, to mend my heart and to move on with my life.
Sometimes when we get hurt, it's not about us, it's not our fault, it's about the ones who did hurt you, whether they are too selfish or they didn't understand you or see your worth.
And it's not about being hurt as much as it is about getting up again and not to settle for pain. Cry as much as you want, but never cry again for the same reason. Most of the time we do change after being pained, and when you change from pain, you can never get back to that old person, and sometimes, that change is all what you need, so don't be afraid to change and don't be afraid to feel the pain. And below is some steps to help you overcome a heartbreak!
1- Meet other people:
Don't be afraid! meeting others that's what will help you overcome the bad that a person got you through, sometimes all you need is good friends! Getting hurt by someone would never mean to stop loving or caring about others, you can't judge all the people by what just one person did.
2- Do what makes you happy:
Everyone has a passion or passions, figure it out, these things that you love and that you can do better than others! keeping yourself busy by doing what you love will help to not overthink about the heartbreak thing.
3- Write it down:
Writing down your thoughts helps you to reorganize your thoughts, make it clear and give it its real dimensions, because often when you keep it in your head, it gets a bigger shadow! and when you write, you actually get it out of your mind, you'll think about it less!
4- Give it time:
Stop worrying about it, time will heal everything, no matter how hard it was for you, no matter how long it's going to take from you to move on, believe that one day you'll wake up and you won't have to feel bad about it anymore.
5- Distance yourself as much as you can:
Whatever you want to let go of, distance yourself from it, you can't heal your wounds when you keep touching it! distance and time will make it easier to let go of it.
6- Sleep well:
It's actually a good way to forget and help your body to stress less about it! it's a natural defense!
7- Feel good about yourself:
Do sports, eat healthier, and get your work done, that will boost your self-esteem, you need to feel good about you, so that you'll realize that being hurt wasn't about you! you're already good enough.
8- Help people:
Do volunteer work, because adding a value to the world is what will make you feel your worth by figuring out the reason what you're meant to be for! it's to leave the world a better place! we rise by lifting others up!
In this life we can go through many heartbreaks, and it's not about not having any, it's about learning the lesson and making the change, because we fall to rise above it all.
There will always better love around the corner, if we are patient enough, realize our value and refuse to comprise it.