Sometimes our thoughts are baked by so much negativity, that they create lies we believe. If you accept your limitations you go beyond them. when you admit your flaws, weaknesses, there when you can change them and improve, by denying them you'll stay the same. Below are some common negative thoughts that hold us from health and happiness and some ideas to overcoming it:
The main negative thought is fear, and after it comes all the other ones, we hold ourselves from taking actions on our dreams because we fear failure. Fear is what holding us from making the changes we always wanted, and that's why we keep procrastinating.
Fear is holding us from living our own lives because we're afraid that we get judged and criticized, we're afraid that people wouldn't like us, we're afraid of rejection, pain, and disappointments... But once you admit that you're afraid, then you can find the courage to take action on your dream without fearing failure, you'll find the courage to give a try and the courage to be yourself.
- Replace the fear of the unknown with curiosity: instead of worrying about the future, just get curious about what's going to happen, enjoy your time without stressing about the outcomes, it doesn't matter the result, but the moments you've experienced. Believe in yourself so that no matter what's going to happening, you know that you can handle it and work it out.
- Find the courage to get out of your comfort zone: this bubble you're closed in, dare to try, to fail and to try all over again because you won't fail until you give up. Peace doesn't mean to be in comfort, it means to be uncomfortable, but still can find an inner peace deep inside of you.
- Choose to ignore that fear: ignore obstacles and do it anyway, ignore judgments and ignore the doubters.
We all have insecurities, but that's what life is about, it's an adventure or nothing at all.
"Don't diminish your blessings by comparing them to the blessings of others."
You won't give up comparing until you truly know your worth and value, and understand that your imperfections and being different from others is what makes you unique, the more you're different the more value you have!
So stop comparing yourself to others, they aren't better than you, you don't know anyone but yourself, you don't know what their journey is all about, their image is too fake to judge them by, what others are doing, saying, thinking, doesn't concern you, you're only concerned with yourself, you're only responsible for yourself and you never had been supposed to be like them, to do what they do, or even to be judged for not being like them. Now your mission here is to practice the full acceptance of yourself while working on being a better person, don't be afraid to fall in love with yourself, do it before others can fall in love with you!
There will be always a lot of more successful, prettier, richer people out there, but this would never mean that they're better than you, the fact that someone else is better than you in something doesn't mean that he's better than you, everyone has his imperfections, weaknesses, and we're different!
Easy said than done! it's hard to convince yourself with all of this, but when you practice it and make it a habit to not compare yourself to others and to feel your value, then you don't have to remind yourself with it anymore!
- Get enough motivation and keep reminding yourself: work on your dreams, do something you love, so you'll feel the value you're adding to the world and then your own value!
- You are good enough, smart enough, beautiful enough, and strong enough: believe it and never let insecurities ruin your life.
You'll never get the same as people, it's never going to be equal, and the only time you should look in your neighbor's bowl is to make sure that they have enough. You don't look in it to see if you have as much as them.
3- Getting angry and hating people
When you get angry ask yourself, do you even have the right to get angry! even if people are getting you upset, you have to understand that everyone is free to do whatever he wants, you can't control people, the only thing you have control over is yourself.
You'll be always the only one to blame if you're expecting things from people! no one owes you anything, being good to people doesn't mean that they have to be good to you in return, it's like expecting a lion not to eat you, just because you won't eat him.
Keep in your mind that there's no one out there that have do anything for you, you have to do it for yourself.
If you don't like something, change it, don't complain about it, stop blaming others and take the full responsibility of your own life! turn the situation around, do something about it, because it's not about what happened to you, it's about hwo you'll react! we're not the victim of our circumstances because your reaction can change the whole situation.
Being angry that doesn't give you the right to hurt others' feelings, even if you were just expressing yourself, it's whether you do it in calm or you shut down, yelling would only make it even worse! and it doesn't really worth it.
Being rude is easy. It does not take any effort and is a sign of weakness and insecurity. Kindness shows great self-discipline and strong self-esteem. Being kind is not always easy when dealing with rude people. Kindness is a sign of a person who has done a lot of personal work and has come to a great self-understanding and wisdom. Choose to be kind over being right and you’ll be right every time because kindness is a sign of STRENGTH. - Unknown
"True strength is not how much you can lift, it is what you can let go of. - Ralph Smart"
The pain we get from love is actually the pain of attachment, we get too attached to that person, that we build our life around him and as soon as he walks away, or he isn't around, our life gets empty.
We often tend to exaggerate things in our heads, we like to make a tragedy from a simple situation, we imagine that we can't let go, we can't live without that thing or that person, and we start to give these thoughts a bigger shadow!
It's painful to let go of what you've been attached to, by our nature we love stability and being comfortable, it means that we're safe so we don't like change, we like to stay in our comfort zone where we know the situation very well, we fear the unknown that's why moving to another situation can be scary, but you know what's even scarier! it's to stay the same for the rest of your life!
It's a matter of attitude, and things are not as they seem to look like, things are just like what they are in our minds, you can see the change as something scary and you can see it also as something exciting, the choice is yours.
"I think part of the reason why we hold on to something so tight is because we fear something so great won't happen twice."
You only let go of your attachment when you convince yourself that you don't need it, or need them, just say it and your mind will believe it!
I don't need to be beautiful, I don't need to be loved, I don't need money, I don't need.... say it and you'll believe it!
We're not supposed to expect anything from anyone, but that doesn't free us from taking responsibilities toward others, it's about giving without expecting anything in return, it may not seem fair, but it doesn't have to be fair, it's about being the good person! even if you're not supposed to do anything for anyone.
Each time you're disappointed or someone hurt you or whatever, don't exagerate it, you don't have to get into that much of drama , just let it go and move on to something else. You can't blame them, because you don't have the right to expect anything in the first place.
The solution for negativity is to walk away from it, to forget about it for a while! forgetting about the negativity doesn't mean that you're lying to yourself, or trying to denying it, feelings and moods sometimes are easier to deal with when you let go of that desire to control the way you feel, when you forget about your sad mood, and move on to something else, it will disepeer in a while unlike when you try to change it and you keep thinking about it! the more you try to control it, the more it will control you.
Say no to negativity even if you feel comfortable complaining and hating, you're far too stronger than this!
it's not only about giving up bad habit, but also about replacing it with good ones, always give the alternative because once you leave the place empty, it will be filled again with bad habits, but when you replace it with the alternative you'll make sure that you can succeed in the change you intended to make. Like for example trade hate for loving and helping people! trade complaining for appreciation.
I know that there are a lot of things that we always try to change, easy to say, hard to convince yourself with, but it's doable, and sometimes what does really matter is that you gave a try! don't be afraid, it won't be called a fail until you give up. You wanted to change and you've tried and sometimes that's already enough.