We're here to learn, and we can't learn without experiencing and making mistakes, so making mistakes doesn't make you a bad partner, not learning and not changing that what does! you can't promise each other that you won't hurt each other and that you won't make another mistakes, because you'll always do so, but you can promise that you won't make the same mistake twice and when you hurt him, you won't have any intention to do so! when love is strong enough, it worth all the forgiveness, learning and changing into a better person is worth the mistakes, so here are things I've learned from my relationship that I wish I've learned before I started my first relationship:
1- I've learned that relationship is about sharing everything, joy, sadness, stress,.. as well as sharing dreams and thoughts, and it's alright to be different or to not agree at something, you should love your partner the way he is and not your reflection, because when you're not OK with being different and you want him to be just like you, then you're not loving him, you're loving your reflection! you want him to be a copy of you. Just accept him and respect your differences.
2- I've learned that in a relationship, love is not only feelings, it's also deeds, by doing these deeds, you're going to say I love you, it's great to know that we're loved, but we also need to feel that love, because nothing really kills love as much as neglecting it and not showing care for your partner.
3- I've learned that the key for a long term relationship is communication, and that needs a deep talk, not just asking about how was his day or how is he doing, you need to sacrifice time to talk with your partner and that's what will get you close to each other, the more you'll know him, the happier you'll get to be with him.
4- I've learned that most women are hard on their men about showing emotions, but they also have feelings, and showing them doesn't make the weak, men shouldn't have to live up to some standard of manhood, they hurt just like anyone else and to call them soft or be angry because they show a sign of weakness shows what type of woman you are! Man's tears doesn't make him less of a man.
5- I've learned that in a relationship, you need to respect your partner's feelings, so watch out your words and your actions, even if it was the truth, if it hurts, keep it to yourself! the most difficult thing is being hurt by someone you love.
6- I've learned that knowing each other more and more is a key, the more you know each other, the more you fall in love with each other, so don't be afraid of showing him who you are.
7- I've learned that you shouldn't wish for someone else who's better, rather you're the one who should make herself better, before blaming him, make sure that you're flawless. No one is perfect, and you don't need a perfect partner, you just need to accept, respect him and see the good about him! if you love him and he's all what you want, then he's already perfect.
8- I've learned that if you truly love him, then other guys would do nothing but make you even sure you love him and you want him, because love will make you see him always far too better than anyone else!
9- I've learned that perfect relationships aren't real and real relationships aren't perfect, that means that ain't no relationship without problems and your mission here isn't to solve them, but to maintain the relation, you don't need to fix your partner, you just need to accept, respect and love him unconditionally!
10- I've learned that no matter how pretty girls are, out there, when you have his heart, then you have something they will never have! Don't let jealousy consume you, when it's true love then no need to stress over something that would never take place!
11- I've learned that a relationship is like life, the less you try to control it, the happier you get.
12- I've learned that when you do your best, and your partner couldn't treat you properly, then you have to know that it's not about you, all your imperfections have been formed together perfectly, only to be loved and cherished or to leave it and walk away, but never to be hurt. If he can't love you properly, then it's not your fault, it's he who wasn't able to love properly, you deserve to be loved and respected!
13- I've learned that we're not afraid of losing our partners because we love them, but because we think that we won't find someone's better.
14- I've learned that sometimes it's not about you doing it the wrong way, sometimes it's just that your partner is preferring it in some other way, and it's okay, as long as you're together, you won't stop learning about him and what he prefers.
15- I've learned that with time, it might sound to you that you've been questioning the relationship more than you said the word "I love you", yet it still worth it.
"Couples who fight often are most likely stronger than couples who do not. But it's not the fighting makes them stronger, it's what takes place after the fighting; the making up, it's coming to the realization that your relationship is more important than your differences. It involves acts of forgiveness and acceptance of one's mistakes. You fight, and you learn something new about the person, that's how it works. Real relationships aren't perfect, and perfect relationships aren't real."