Work is an important part of our lives; it’s our way to give back to the world. But sometimes we lose perspective and start to live only to work. Sometimes work becomes too stressful that instead of making our lives easier, it becomes our main problem. Below is a list of ways that will help you find your work-life balance.

1. Remember that you’re here by choice: Whether you were desperate to get a job or you strived to get the job you have, you were the one who made the choice and you’re reaffirming that choice every day by going to work.

2. You’re not alone: Stop thinking about your problems and how much pressure you have from your job, and look around, you’ll find out that almost everyone is struggling with their jobs, each one has his own problems, some manage to get away from those problems and some feel helpless.

3. You’re limited by your physiology: There’s only so much you can do in one day. You need to realize that you can’t do it all and that’s alright. Lower your expectations and don’t feel guilty when you can’t get so much done in one day.

4. See the positive about your job: People, in general, work for more than the money. Some strive for success, for the challenges, getting to meet people, the opportunity of helping people… step back for a moment and consider what you like about your job. That way, you’ll find it easier to get up in the morning and you’ll enjoy your work better.

5. Focus on what you accomplished: With the endless amount of work, it’s easy to get frustrated by how much there’s to be done. Instead, praise yourself for what you accomplished. At the end of the day, it won’t hurt to tell yourself “that was a productive day, I got so much done”.

6. Your job is only what you do and not who you are: No matter how you feel about your job, remember that you’re more than your work. Your worth isn’t based on the job you’re having rig
ht now, it might be an important part of your life, but that’s not all to it.

7. Leave work at work: They don’t pay you for the extra time you spend working at home, or for the lunch hour you’re giving up for work. Don’t bring it home, because it will either suck you into it or sit there making you feel bad about yourself for not getting anything done.

8. Get yourself a life to go to after work: It’s important for you to do the things you love and be with the people you love. Don’t let your work be the only thing you live for, especially, don’t let it make you feel guilty for having a life. 

9. Write down your next day schedule before you leave: Writing things down helps you not only get organized but also put things off your mind. Before leaving your work, write down the things you need to get done the next day, that way you’ll have less to think and worry about.

10. Create a buffer time between work and home: Before getting home go out with some friends, stop off at the gym, go for a walk, or even get yourself a hot bath before preparing dinner. It will help you relax and unwind.

11. Live near your workplace: Living near your workplace will give more hours to yourself, you’ll have more time to sleep in the morning and to enjoy yourself in the evening. If you have the choice between driving or going by train, choose the latter, that way you’ll have more time to read or enjoy listening to your music and relaxing.

12. Buy your time: Instead of cooking, choose takeout or delivery every now and then to save more time for the things you want to do. Hire someone to cut the grass or clean the house and buy in bulk to shop less.

13. Find flexibility in deadlines: Deadlines can be a major source of stress and pressure. Deadlines are important, but you’ll have to accept realistic ones only, if you can’t deliver it, don’t accept it or promise it. 

14. Prioritize your tasks: The thing is, we sometimes choose to start with the easy tasks and put off the hardest ones which often are the urgent ones. The following model developed by Alan Lakein is called “ABC system”. It goes like this, you make 3 lists. In the list A you write down the urgent tasks that need to get done first, in the list B you write down the things that should be done, but that are not so urgent and in the list C, you write down the things that might be done if there’s time left. Once you’re done with the list A, you move on to the list B, and if there’s enough time, you move on to the list C. 

15. Use the 20-minute break rule: It’s been proven scientifically that our energy and activity levels rise throughout two hours until it reaches its peak then comes down, right then you’ll need to take a 20-minute break in order to restore your energy and keep going, otherwise, you’ll be working unproductively.

16. Take vacations: As with the 20-minute break rule, we need a vacation every now and then. You don’t have to need a vacation to take it. Take it before you need it, that way, you’ll enjoy your time.

Remember that no matter what people expect from you to achieve, the most important thing will remain, for you to be happy in your life. And that happiness has nothing to do with how long you work or how much you earn.

Stress is inevitable, yet it is vital for surviving. It keeps you safe and gives you the energy you need to face the upcoming challenges. However, stress becomes a problem when there’s too much of it, when it last for too long or when it comes too often.

Below is a list of things you can do to relieve your stress and make your life a lot easier:

1. Awareness: 

The first step to relieving your stress is to recognize it and be aware of it and its source. Keep in mind that even when most of it comes from within you, the good news is that you’re in the best position to do something about it. You have more control over yourself than you realize.

2. Have more realistic expectations: 

A computer that glitches or a delayed airline departure can be stressful, but that’s only when you expect perfection. Try to see things differently, for instance, technology isn’t perfect, especially a new one, so it’s only reasonable to expect it to bug. When you lower your expectations, you’ll have less chance to stress about things that malfunction.

3. Give yourself permission to take a break: 

We often push ourselves way too hard that having a break will make us feel guilty. A parent who started to take some time for himself on the weekend, instead of spending it with his family, showed up positive results. He became less stressed out and more available for his family. A needed break isn’t a waste of time, so give yourself permission to take a break every now and then.

4. Consider changing something: 

Always ask yourself, are you happy where you are? If you’re not, you might want to consider changing something. If you’re experiencing much pressure from work consider cutting down or changing it if necessary. Remember that what matters most is to be happy, it’s your way to succeed in life and it’s a success itself.

5. Add the word “Enough” to your work-life balance vocabulary: 

Our workday is getting longer. The thing about working for longer hours is that it becomes not only unproductive but counterproductive when you’re tired and under much pressure and stress, you start to make mistakes. You need to start asking yourself “how much work is enough?”, “how much success is enough?” “how much money is enough?”, then set boundaries for yourself, like “no work at home”, or “no work on weekends and vacations”.

6. Learn how to say “No”: 

When you start to say “No” to the extra work or the extra responsibilities, you start feeling more in control of your life. You start having more time and energy for yourself. Saying “No” isn’t counterproductive, it’s about acknowledging the fact that we can’t do everything nor keeping everyone happy, and there’s nothing wrong about that. When you’re exhausted, overloaded and out of time, having more important priorities or if it’s not your responsibility or your area of expertise, that’s when you need to say “No”, and let someone else do it.

7. Get enough sleep: 

Adults need about 8 hours of sleep every night, if you’re getting less, then you have a sleep debt, that means that you’ll need to repay those hours you didn’t get, or else you’ll be sleep deprived. The damage is more than you realize, you might fall asleep while driving, make mistakes on the job and cause injuries or financial loss. In general, your intellectual and memory are impaired. So make sure you get enough sleep before starting your day.

8. Cut down on caffeine: 

Caffeine stimulates adrenaline release, makes you too alert and blocks relaxing chemicals in your body. That much of energy isn’t always needed and it messes up your sleep quality if you had any at all. What people forget about caffeine, is that it’s a drug, you become addicted to having your dose of caffeine. The good news is that there are always alternatives. A cup of water in the morning is scientifically proven to wake you faster than a coffee can.

9. You live in a house, not a museum: 

Keeping the house clean is important, but you shouldn’t spend the whole day cleaning nor should you clean it all by yourself. House chores are to be shared fairly, especially if both parents work outside. At the same time, you should let some things go; beds don’t have to be made every morning, toys don’t have to be picked up each time your kids are done playing.

10. Consider downsizing: 

Objects can consume not only space but much of our time as well while buying, restoring, cleaning them…, which can be a considerable source of stress. Consider having fewer objects and limiting yourself by living in a smaller house. 

11. Learn the art of “doing it now”: 

Procrastination is a common behavior that can cause us a considerable amount of stress. People procrastinate for different reasons; dreading an unpleasant task, lack of confidence, fear of failure… IT turns out that, most often, dreading doing the task consumes more energy and time than doing the task itself. So to avoid procrastination, try to make the job look less intimidating, you can break it down into small tasks. Always consider the relief and reward of getting the job done.

12. Don’t start early on the worrying: 

If some of the worrying is inevitable, a lot more can be delayed. Some people start worrying in advance, thinking that if they worried now they might prevent the event from happening, or they might have a better reaction to face it. When facing an upcoming challenge, the right reaction is not to worry but to be concerned about it. Now there’s a huge difference between being “worried” and “concerned”. While the first is emotional and problem-oriented, the latter is intellectual and solution-oriented. Ask yourself the following:

What’s the worst thing that can happen?

How likely is it to happen?

What can I do to prevent it from happening or to prepare for it?

And then leave it to that.

13. Getting a closure on unfinished tasks: 

We can easily get overwhelmed by multiple unresolved tasks. “They take up space in our heads and weight us down emotionally. There are three things to do about those tasks, you either pursue them, keep them on hold for now or let them go for good. Remember that holiday you promised your mom and never found the time for but still comes into your thoughts every now and then, take it now. Always wanted to move to another place, but never took action on it? Maybe you should decide that your current place is fine for now. Needed some answers from your ex, but he’s not willing to talk about it? Maybe you need to leave it to that and let it go for good.

14. Reframe the way you look at things: 

Things aren’t always what they seem. It all depends on the way you review it. A canceled vacation can be an unfortunate thing, but you also see it as a way to save the money. Always see the good side about everything.

15. Be careful about what you say to yourself: 

Some self-talk can trigger stress like no other event. When you’re about to say “No” to someone, don’t consider it as “adamantly refusing”, rather consider it as “graciously declining”. Sometimes you need to take it easy. It’s okay to “relax”, don’t see it as “laziness” and beat yourself about it.

16. It’s not always about you: 

We often jump to conclusions about why people reacted that way, like not returning our greetings. Most of the time our conclusions aren’t right. Instead of thinking the worst of it, try to come up with excuses, he might be going through a hard time, maybe he didn’t hear you, maybe he has been preoccupied with other thoughts, or maybe he’s rude and it’s his way with everyone else… 

17. Cope with difficult people: 

Some people might give us a hard time and add to our stress. Obviously, avoiding them would be a great strategy to deal with them. However, you might not be able to avoid them, as when you have to work with them. Get to know them better, sometimes knowing someone can lessen the feelings of tension. Try to put yourself in their place, that way you’ll find it easier to understand the way they are and to accept them.

18. Stop letting others control you: 

You don’t have to put up with others’ behavior and controlling ways. You need to object and stop giving others permission to use you or control you. This can be done gently because taking control back doesn’t mean to have the power over those people but to be independent. For example, if your spouse can get abusive sometimes and get you into arguments, you don’t have to aim for control over the relationship, you simply have to stand up and say “I’m not getting into this argument” and watch him have his temper tantrum. You’ll see that he’ll calm down in no time.

19. Make healthy choices: 

There are many ways people use to cope with stress. Some choose to eat their favorite food, some light up a cigarette, some indulge themselves in work, some go out for a run… those ways, even though they aim for the same finality; keeping the stress away, not all of them are healthy, and while it’s fine for you to distract yourself from stress, it’s quite important to choose wisely and make healthy choices.

20. Breathe deeply: 

One of the best relaxation techniques is breathing. “When you breathe as if you are relaxed, you become relaxed”. Focus on breathing deeply and watch as your tummy rise when you inhale and fall as you exhale.

21. Share your problem: 

They say, a problem shared is a problem halved. It’s quite important to have social support in our lives in general. For that don’t wait till you’re up the twist to run out to someone to tell him about your day, keep up a healthy social life.

“Stress is a fact of life, but it needn’t be a way of life”.

When dating a man, women often get caught in looking for signs and what they could possibly mean, even though those signs couldn’t, sometimes, be any clearer. They like to think of themselves as being the exception to the rule. And while every relationship is special, some signs have only one explanation. He’s just not that into you.

1. He’s Not Asking You Out 

I know that time has changed, that now, women and men are equal (almost), but when it comes to starting a relationship, men and women cease to be equal. When a man likes and wants a woman, he’ll ask her out. It has nothing to do with not having her phone number or being busy in his work or coming out of a difficult breakup or any of the other excuses women like to feed themselves when they like a man and think that they like them back. Trust me, if he wants you, he’ll find you and ask you out. If he doesn’t, then he’s just not that into you.
It’s important to let the man take action and start the relationship, he likes to feel in control. And who wants to be with someone that can’t find the courage to ask them out.

2 He’s Not Calling You

When someone is so into you, he’ll want to be with you every waken moment, and if he can’t he’ll want to talk to you, to call you. It’s easy to find excuses when someone you like doesn’t call you back or says that he’ll call you later and never does, or at least, not exactly when he says he’ll do. You might think to yourself that he’s too busy with his work, that he has simply forgotten. You have to know something, “When you like someone, they don’t just slip your mind”. No one is too busy to give a phone call. If he doesn’t call, then he simply chose not to call.

What’s important about a man calling especially when he says he will, is the expectations his promise builds, the hurtful thing about waiting and checking your phone every so often to see if he called. A simple phone call can mean way too much, it means that the person is always thinking about you and that he cares about you. And you deserve a phone call

3. He’s not dating you

Hanging out or seeing each other every other week when the distance isn’t that significant, wouldn’t be qualified as dating. No matter what excuses you keep fading yourself; this is better than nothing, he’s afraid of intimacy, we’re taking it slow… that still means that he isn’t that into you to date you officially. Believe me, if he cares enough, he’ll claim you his at the first opportunity.

4. He’s not having sex with you

If a man likes you, then he would want to kiss you and never take his hands off of you. Even if he doesn’t, to respect your wishes or any other obvious reason, he would still want to and it would show right on his face. So, if a man doesn’t look so hot for you, even if he says he loves you, then know that he isn’t that into you and that you’re like a friend to him.

5. He’s having sex with someone else

I know it’s not that easy to break a relationship for one mistake, or so you can think of it, but the truth is there’s no excuse for cheating; not problems, not you gaining some weight… There are many ways to solve and approach any problem that shows up and none of these ways include cheating. Keep in mind that cheating doesn’t happen accidentally, it’s the result of a planning and an execution.

6. He only wants to see you when he’s drunk

Some women think nothing wrong with being with someone who only wants to see them when he’s drunk. Some, especially, love the things their man says when he’s drunk. Well, you shouldn’t believe everything a man says when he’s drunk. Moreover, being constantly drunk has a lot to do with the way the man feels about himself when he’s troubled and has little self-esteem, they tend to drink more. And believe me, you don’t want to be with someone like that. You deserve an attentive and sober man.

7. He doesn’t want to marry you
The truth is, marriage had quite a bad publicity in those past decades. However, that never held people from getting married. If your man is bringing up every possible excuse about why he doesn’t believe in marriage whenever the subject is brought, then listen more closely, because he might be saying it outright, I don’t want to get married “to you”. Whatever bad experience he might have been through, when a man finds the love of his life, he would jump right away to claim you his forever. More importantly, never let anyone make you feel stupid for wanting to get married and if marriage is your wish, then the right man would do it for you.

8. He’s breaking up with you

If he breaks up with you and then starts calling all the time asking about you, or wants to hang out with you as friends but then you end up in his bed, then know that he isn’t that into you. Because someone who really wants you, after breaking up, he’ll be right by your door telling you how much he misses you and asking you to be back with him. Otherwise, he’s just feeling lonely.

Then deciding to go back together is up to you, but just keep in mind that the guy in front of you, is the same one who looked you in the eye and broke up with you telling you that he no longer needs you in his life.

9. He’s disappeared on you

When a guy disappears on you and never call you back, don’t start calling him asking him why he had done it or imagine excuses for him that made him do what he did. Simply, he wasn’t into you, but also he wasn’t man enough to break it to you. No answer is enough of an answer and the best thing you can do is to move on and never look back. “Sometimes you have to get closure all by yourself”

I know that you deserve to know why, but would anything he might say satisfy you, I doubt it. And does calling him back will change his mind, I highly doubt that.

10. He’s married (or has a girlfriend)

You can feed yourself all the excuses you want as for why it’s okay to date someone who isn’t available. He might be a good person, you’re in love, his wife is mean toward him… but that wouldn’t change the fact that you’re dating a married man and that can’t be right because, he’s being dishonest, he’s cheating on his wife, he has no regards for you and you’ll be helping a man cheat on his wife.

You’re better than that and you deserve much more than that, you deserve someone who’s available for you.

11. He’s a selfish jerk or a bully

One good rule to go by, is to ask yourself: is he making me happy? Because someone who’s really into you will want to do the things that make you happy. Now, he might be a good person with some good qualities, but if he treats you badly and bullies you, then he’s just not that good for you. No pressure can justify his yelling at you and no matter how fat you are, that doesn’t give him the right to point it out to you every now and then. Even if he’s not into your family and friends, he would make the effort to be nice if that means a lot to you.

Being told to get out of these relationships isn’t that easy to apply, but being told that you’re way better than those relationships, that’s where to start off. In any relationship, make sure you’re happy, that’s a good way to know if you’re with Mr right or not.

The book: He's just not that into you

Simplifying our life is a good goal one could set up as a new year resolution, yet, many people don't take any action on it. Below is a list of actions that you can take today that will simplify your life considerably

1. Pack your lunch: Instead of wasting your money, make your own lunch or pack leftovers from the night before. This is even a healthier alternative.

2. Cook one more night a week: This will not only save you more money but will also save you the calories if you aren't eating out. Adding to that you'll get to spend more time with your family.

3. De-clutter your desk: Clearing your desk will make it more spacious and more comfortable for you to work and create. Organizing your desk will also save you the time you normally spend rifling through the piles of papers.

4. Stop buying things you don’t need: De-cluttering your desk or place and then replacing what you get rid of with more things you don’t need, doesn’t help. Whenever you like something and feel the urge to buy it, ask yourself “do I need it now?”.

5. Own Less: Any clothes you no longer wear and are just taking up room, give them away to a charity. Make sure that anything you own has a use. If not, get rid of it. Don’t let your stuff own you!

6. Limit Your Choices: It has been proven that the more choices you get, the less happy you feel. Take the example of choosing among ice-cream flavors. If you love chocolate and you get to choose between chocolate, strawberry or vanilla, you’ll choose the chocolate and feel pretty satisfied. Now if you get to choose between dark chocolate, Chocolate Peppermint Crunch, Chocolate Fudge Brownie… you might end up regretting your choice and wondering if you have to choose again. Now, this goes with everything in your life. Always limit your choices.

7. Learn the Power of No: Learn to say a polite “No, thank you” to anything that might hold you from the things you love and the goals you care about achieving. 

8. Spend Some Time Disconnected: As much as useful the technology could be, it might take some of your time you otherwise could’ve spent it in more important things, like meeting the people you love or enjoying the view instead of watching it through your phone screen. Don’t let life pass you by while you click away.

9. Spend Time with Those You Care About: We often don’t realize how important it is to spend quality time with the people you care about. We take them for granted forgetting that they’re the ones that matter and that they’re the ones who’ll be there for you when it gets though.

10. Give More: We need to give as much as we need to get. In fact, it has been proven that giving provides us with a deep satisfaction and a feeling of fullness like nothing else. Make giving a goal in your life. You can not only give money and things but even giving some of your time might be the most precious gift.

11. Learn More About Minimalism: Start reading books that will help you lead a more minimalist lifestyle and follow people who are living such a life. It is important to live simply, but what is more important is to keep learning how to maintain your life that simple.

12. Consider a Smaller Home: If you intend to move, consider a smaller home. Limiting your living space will make you limit the things you don’t need.

13. Switch Chemical Beauty Product With Natural Ones: Beauty products can burn a hole in your pocket and leave behind unwanted side effect. Whereas, natural remedies and treatments are safe to use and more effective.

Check out these natural remedies:

14. Try Living Without a Car: Walk, bike, or take public transportation. Using your car less will give you more time to think and the opportunity to interact with people and notice your surroundings.

15. Choose Quality Over Quantity: You can apply this to every aspect of your life. For example, instead of buying different jeans, buy one that is with a good quality.

16. Start Your Day With Gratitude: Always find reasons to be thankful. This will provide you with deep satisfaction and a feeling of fullness way better than owning more could.

17. Pack Lightly: From going to school, work to vacations, try to pack the least you can. You can try the one bag rule which consists of going out with only one bag, even in vacations. Remember that life is about experiences and not things.

18. Pay off Your Debt: Whether it’s student loan debt, credit card debt, car debt… paying it off will make it much easier for you to manage your finances and you will have less debt to stress about.

19. Unsubscribe From Emails: Emails that you don’t need can take so much of your time without you noticing. You can check how many lists you’re subscribed to with

20. Use the Cloud: Instead of using a flash drive that you might forget at work or lose, start saving your documents to OneDrive or Google Drive. You’ll be able to access your files anywhere, and safely save and organize them.

21. Always Keep Baking Sode at Home: Baking Soda is a great alternative to many products you use at home. It can be used to clean the house, remove stains, a toothpaste and a mouthwash…. These are 
15 Surprising Beauty Uses For Baking Soda That Will Simplify Your Life

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