Acne can get too overwhelming; each time one goes, another one takes its place leaving behind unwanted redness and dark marks. Commercial products keep promising us satisfying results, but none of them seem to work that effectively, at least not in the long term and most of them damage our skin.

Below is a list of natural ingredient you can find in your home that, applied regularly, will help you have a beautiful and clear skin:

1- Ice cubes:

You can use pure water, or tea ice cubes (Chamomile or green tea). Once frozen, wrap the cube in a thin cloth or washcloth and apply to pimples for a few seconds to a minute.

Ice reduces redness and inflammation, it shrinks the pores which means that bacteria are less likely to get in and cause infections that lead to acne it also reduces the size of the breakout.

You need to be aware not to apply ice cubes directly on your face without it being wrapped in a cloth or for more than 5 minutes at a time.

2- Olive oil:

Olive oil can fight bacteria effectively and decrease acne. Olive oil is also known to deeply moisturize and hydrate skin.

Massage olive oil gently over your skin by moving your fingertips in small circles for 4 to 5 minutes then dip a washcloth in warm water and wipe away the excess oil with it.

3- Garlic:

Garlic is a powerful antioxidant and has anti-inflammatory and antimicrobial properties.

Take a clove of garlic and make cuts in it to extract the garlic juice and rub it on your pimple, let it dry then rinse with water and pat dry.

4- Green tea:

Green tea is very high in antioxidants, drinking it or applying directly to the skin helps reducing acne and preventing breakouts.

Using a cotton ball, apply the cool tea to the face, let it dry then rinse with water and pat dry.

5- Mint:

Mint can help removing pore-clogged oil and prevent acne before it begins.

Mix finely chopped fresh mint leaves with yogurt or honey and apply it on your face. Leave for 10 minutes, then rinse off with water.

6- Lemon:

Lemon is a great exfoliant and disinfectant, it helps to prevent new pimples from forming and reduces acne scars.

Dip a cotton ball or a cotton swab in lemon juice and apply it to the affected area. Let it dry then wash it thoroughly.

Bonus: Reduce stress

Stress can be the root of your acne, try the following to help reduce it:

- Get more sleep

- Practice regularly

- Meditate and practice Yoga

- Practice taking deep breaths throughout the day

Men and women are generally unaware of their differences when it comes to emotional needs. Typically, the man gives what he wants and the woman also gives what she wants. As a result, they both end up being fulfilled and resentful. All the while, they feel that they’re not only giving without receiving but also, their efforts are passing by unacknowledged and unappreciated. They feel confused and they’re blaming each other for being ungiving. But the truth is they’re both giving but not in the desired manner. Below are the different emotional needs of a man and woman and how to give what your partner needs in order to get what you need:

The twelve emotional needs:

Men and women, each, have six primary love needs that are equally important to them. The man needs:

1- Trust,
2- Acceptance,
3- Appreciation,
4- Admiration,
5- Approval,
6- And encouragement.

And the woman, primarily, needs:

1- Care,
2- Understanding,
3- Respect,
4- Devotion,
5- Validation,
6- And reassurance.

Men and women, ultimately, need the twelve kinds of love. However, without their six primarily emotional needs, they’re unfulfilled and unsatisfied.

The thing about those different needs is that they’re reciprocal, for example when a man shows care to his woman, reciprocally she’ll trust him and show him her trust, and when he feels trusted, he’s motivated to care more for her. They both end up fulfilled and satisfied.

1. She Needs Caring and He Needs Trust:

When a man shows interest in his woman’s feeling and concern for her well-being, she feels cared about and her first emotional need is therefore fulfilled. As she feels her man’s care, she instinctively trusts him. She’s sending him a message that she believes in his ability to do his best for her. Her attitude becomes more receptive and open. Automatically, as the man senses her attitude, he feels trusted and is willing to care more.

2. She Needs Understanding and He Needs Acceptance:

When a woman is expressing her feelings to her man, she’s craving the feeling of being understood and heard. This doesn’t mean to already know what she’s thinking, but to gather meaning from what is said and validate her feelings. The more a woman feels understood, the more she’s able to lovingly accept her man. To accept a man doesn’t mean to view him as perfect, but to not try to change and make him improve and trust that he can make his own improvements by himself.

3. She Needs Respect and He Needs Appreciation:
When a woman’s feeling, thoughts, rights, and wishes are acknowledged, she feels respected. A man can also show his respect physically, through presents, flowers as well as remembering anniversaries. When a woman feels respected, it is much easier for her to acknowledge and appreciate her man’s efforts. As the man feels appreciated, he feels like his efforts aren’t wasted and are encouraged to respect more his woman.

4. She Needs Devotion and He Needs Admiration:

A man is devoted to a woman when he makes her number one in his life and lovingly commits to fulfill her needs. A woman as a result thrives, she feels adored and it is easier for her to admire her man.

As a woman primarily needs devotion, a man equally needs to feel admired. This means that his woman is delighted and amazed by his talents and characteristic, be it humor, kindness, romance, strength, understanding and other old-fashioned virtues. When a man feels admired, he feels more secure to devote himself further to his woman.

5. She Needs Validation and He Needs Approval:

When a man accepts the way his woman feels without judging, he’s giving her the message that she has the right to feel the way he does. He’s fulfilling one of her primarily emotional needs, bearing in mind that he can validate her feelings while having a different point of view. In return, when a woman feels validated, it’s easier for her to give her man the approval he needs. Every man wants to be a hero in the eyes of his woman, and her approval is the sign that he passed all the tests. To approve of a man is to look for the goodness in him and to recognize the good reasons behind what he’s doing.

6. She Needs Reassurance and He Needs Encouragement:

When a man, cares, understands, respects validates his woman needs, feelings and thoughts, he’s reassuring her that she’s continually loved. This is a primary love need for a woman to be constantly reassured of her man’s love. A man shouldn’t assume that when he makes his woman feel loved, that she should know from now on she’s loved. He should keep reminding her of his love again and again. Equally, a man needs to be constantly encouraged. An encouraging attitude that a woman shows, is an attitude that expresses her confidence in her man’s abilities. When a woman’s attitude expresses trust acceptance, appreciation, admiration, and approval it encourages a man to give more to his woman and to keep reassuring her of his love.

Without the awareness of the different kinds of love needs, men and women might, not only be unfulfilled but also, they might be hurting each other.

For example, a woman who would love to receive care and devotion might mistakenly think that her man would be openly receptive for her care and she gets confused when he doesn’t appreciate her caring efforts. in fact, a man might feel hurtful when poured with much care, for he prides himself for his accomplishments and abilities and to give him much care would send him the message that I don’t trust you to take care of yourself or me.

Men, learn to listen without getting frustrated:

Communication is so crucial for women, they not only express themselves when they talk, but they also process issues and relieve themselves as they talk. And when a man listens intently to his woman without judging or interrupting to try to fix her, he’s showering her with care, understanding, respect, devotion, validation, and reassurance.

As a woman feels heard, she feels safe to express herself more and fulfill in return her man’s primary love needs of trust, acceptance, appreciation, admiration, approval, and encouragement.

Women, empower your man:

The secret to fulfilling your man’s primary love needs is not to try to change him or improve him, instead address him with a positive attitude that reflects trust, acceptance, appreciation. admiration, approval, and encouragement.

It is normal for a woman to want to give care and advice to someone she loves, however, this might be negatively perceived by the man. Never try to advise your man unless he specifically asks for it. Instead, trust that he can do it his way.

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Men think that when they do something big for their women like buying her a new car or taking her on a vacation, they’re scoring higher than doing the small things, like giving her a hug, complimenting her or buying her a flower. Thus, they’re focusing their energy and time to do one or two big things. Men believe that by doing something small for their partner, they’re scoring one point and by doing something large, they’re scoring 30 points. Unfortunately, women keep score differently, no matter the size of the gift, small or big, the score is always one point for each deed or gift. Without understanding the difference in score keeping, men and women are continually frustrated and overwhelmed in their relationships.

When a man becomes successful and his career demands more of his time and energy, he’ll be eventually giving less and less to his relationship. From the woman’s point of view, her man is giving less, and she now had to take care of more things in their house and lives. She believes she’s doing more than he does and she grows increasingly unhappy and resentful. From the man’s point of view, he’s scoring more because the pay of his work is now much bigger. For him the score is even, he’s satisfied with the new situation except for one thing, his woman isn’t happy so he blames her for needing too much which makes her even angrier.

Women, here’s what you need to learn:

1- In order to continue giving for his woman, a man needs to be appreciated. He needs to know that he’s being useful and that what he’s doing is making a difference. With a little smile or a “thank you”, a woman can let her man know that she appreciates what he’s doing for her and that he has scored a point. It is a great encouragement for a man to know that he’s not taken for granted and that his efforts are being appreciated.

2- A woman needs to accept her man’s tendencies to focus his energy and time on his work more than his relationship, it is not a sign that he doesn’t love her or care for her, but rather understand that he is focused on doing the big things. Through accepting this, she can work, more effectively, on letting her man know how much she appreciates the little things as well. She can help him to give her more by directly requesting things to do for her and encouraging him to do more by giving him the appreciation he needs.

3- Men strive for success because they’re craving to feel loved, they want to feel worthy of the love of their women. By appreciating the little things your man does, you can make him feel loved and his addiction for success will ease off.

- Appreciated or not, women keep giving to their men. They don’t keep score like the men do, they give freely and openly and expect for their men to do the same. After some time, they begin to feel resentful. Because of this resentment, they stop giving their men the love they need and men, on the other hand, will grow resentful as well. The solution for this problem is for women to take responsibility for having contributed to her problems by giving too much and not giving the chance for their men to give as much. A woman, when the score becomes uneven, needs to take a rest and let her man take care of her more.

4- When a woman feels resentful, she tends to reject the support of her man, even though that’s the most thing she’s craving for. She tends to negate the value of his efforts and his score gets as high as a zero. By taking responsibility for her problem, she can stop blaming him, start a new score recording and give him the chance to give her more.

5- Don’t wait until the score is greatly uneven to ask him, but also don’t demand his support. Trust that he wants to support you even if he needs little encouragement.

6- Men give points differently, they care more about feelings than deeds. When you do something for him with a smile, they give you higher points than when you do it without a smile if they gave any points in the latter case at all.

7- Just like the ability of women to give love fluctuates, men’s needs for love fluctuates as well. The more they need their women’s love, the higher the points will be. If for example, a man has made a mistake, it’s then when he needs his woman’s support most. If she doesn’t blame him or disapprove of him and instead accept him and support him, he will then give her more points. If on the other hand, she doesn’t respond y being support at his moments of vulnerability, he might even give her penalty points.

Men, here’s what you need to learn:

1- Your work, be it successful or not, is only scoring one point.

2- The little things you do for your woman scores as much as the big things.

3- By being more understanding for his woman’s resentment, a man can start giving her more without feeling hurt when being rejected or when his efforts aren’t as appreciated as he thinks he needs and deserves. When a man takes his responsibility for contributing to his woman’s resentment by neglecting to do the little things for her, it can much easier for him to understand that he needs to give more before she can be able to give again.

Ways to score points with a woman:

There are many ways to score points with a woman a lot of men know about, but don’t realize how important they are for a woman.

1- Kiss her and hug her before going to work and when getting home.

2- Ask her about her day and listen to her with empathy.

3- Buy her flowers as a surprise as well as on special occasions.

4- Plan a surprise date rather than asking her what she wants to do on a Friday night.

5- Offer to make dinner or help her with a chore when she is tired.

6- If she looks or smells good, tell her.

7- When you’re going to be late, call her and let her know.

8- When she needs to talk to you, offer her an undivided attention, turn off the TV and put down the paper.

9- If she asked you to fix something around the house, fix, don’t postpone it any longer.

10- Hold her hand in public

11- When leaving, ask her if she needs you to pick up something at the store and remember to pick it up.

12- Call her from work and tell her “I love you” or “I miss you”.

13- Share house chores with her and always do your part.

14- Clean your car before a date with her.

15- Offer to give her a massage.

16- Be understanding when she needs extra time to dress up.

17- Take pictures for her on special occasions.

18- Ask for her picture to carry t in your wallet.

19- Write her a note of love on special occasions.

20- Keep the bathroom floor clean and dry after taking a shower.

21- Open the door for her.

22- Offer to carry heavy stuff for her around the house.

23- When on vacation, take responsibility to load and unload the luggage.

24- Compliment her cooking.

25- Offer her a list of “to fix” and “grocery to buy” in the kitchen and do it whenever you can.

26- If she’s tired, offer her some tea.

27- Don’t answer the phone at intimate moments.

Through doing the little things, both the man and woman are to benefit. The woman is more fulfilled and satisfied because she’s getting the care she needs, and the man will feel more effective and powerful.

If anything, working less, for a man, in order to devote more time for his woman, is proven by many who had tried it, to make them even more successful, it’s because their woman became happier with the changes, that they also became much happier and comfortable in their relationships and in their lives. When a man has a balanced relationship, he then will be able to perform better in his work. He’s more confident and more productive.

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If you’re not getting the support you need from your relationship, it’s quite possible that you’re not asking for it enough or maybe you’re asking in a wrong way. While this issue concerns both men and women, it is more difficult for women to ask and get the support they need.

Why is it hard for women to ask for support?

The reason why women find it hard to ask for support is that a woman instinctively offers her support when she loves someone, the more she loves that person, the more motivated she is to give and offer support. A woman instinctively senses the needs of her lover and offers support, she mistakenly expects her man to do the same. For a woman, giving support is a form of showing your love, she may even test a man’s love for her by how much he offers her support.

Unfortunately, things work differently for men. For them, if you want support, you’ll need to ask for it. They don’t offer help unless they’re asked to. This can be confusing for a woman, especially because if she asked him in a wrong way, it’ll turn him off and if she doesn’t ask at all, she’ll get little or none at all.

Where did things go wrong?

At the beginning of a relationship, men are willing to give to their partner, and after some time, they stop giving. The woman, however, continues to give patiently and lovingly, she assumes that her man doesn’t have anything more to give for now, but that, eventually, he’ll catch up. The man, on the other hand, assumes that he gave enough, that the score is even, that’s why his woman continues to give without asking for more. He’s waiting to be asked for support before giving further.

By this time, the woman grew resentful and when she asks her man, the request comes out as a demand. She even resents the fact that she had to ask for his support. Even if the man says yes, she still believes that if she had to ask for it, then it doesn’t count.

Men, don’t respond well to demands and resentment. Demands are a complete turn off for them. If they sense a woman’s demanding tone, they often say no, and even tend to give less for a while.

How to motivate a man: The three-steps asking approach:

The key to getting what you want from your partner is by following these three steps:

(1) Asking correctly for what you're already getting;

(2) Asking for more, even when you know he will say no, and accept his no;

(3) Assertive asking.

Step 1: Asking correctly for what you're already getting:

- Become aware of the little things your man does for you, like fixing things around the house, cleaning, taking out the trash, picking up the kids…

- Start asking him to do these little things that he already does, in a non-demanding tone.

- When asking, be careful not to ask your man something he’s about to do, it’ll make him feel as if you’re telling him what to do.

- Ask directly, instead of saying: “the trash is full, I can’t put anything else in there.”, just say: “Would you empty the trash.”

- Don’t use the word “Could”, instead use “Would”. When you say to your man: “Could you empty the trash?” He may perceive it as an insult. Of course, he can empty the trash, the question isn’t if he can or can’t empty the trash, but will he empty the trash. When a man answers to a “could-you” question with a yes, it doesn’t feel to him like he made a promise, he may, therefore, not do it. But to answer to a “would-you” question with a yes, it does feel like he made you a promise and thus he’ll do it.

- When he does those things, express a lot of appreciation, and let him know that you’re not taking him for granted.

It is important in this step to get your man used to you asking from him with a non-demand tone and with a lot of appreciation afterward. It is important also not to ask for more than what he is used to doing.

Men need a lot of love and acceptance, when you demand from him, all he hears is you telling him that he’s not doing enough. He tends then, to give less. But the more you appreciate him, the more he’ll give for you.

Step 2: Asking for more, even when you know he will say no, and accept his no:

When the man gets used to you asking for support without expecting more. You’re giving him the message that he’s good enough. He feels appreciated and accepted. Then, he’ll start to stretch his abilities more and offer more support. At this point, you can start asking for more.

- It is important at this step to not only ask correctly but also, accept his NO and make him feel loved and accepted even when he says no. if the man felt free to say no or yes to your request without being disapproved of, he will then tend to say yes more frequently.

- Practice asking for support, even when you know for sure that he’ll say no and even for the things you intended to do it yourself because you know that he’ll say no.

- Be prepared for his NO, when he tells you he can’t or “couldn’t you do it”. Have a ready answer like “Okay”, or “No problem”. And act as if it is perfectly okay with you that he said no. That way, you’re making it safe for him to say no to your request without him feeling disapproved of. To feel loved despite saying no to you will be dearly appreciated by the man, and next time you ask him, he’ll tend to say yes as much as he can. Your acceptance and trust are stretching his ability to give more.

Step 3: Assertive asking:

After practicing asking correctly for support and graciously accepting no as an answer, in this step, you’re not accepting his “No”, you don’t just say “Okay” and go by, but you wait for him to say yes, even when he shows signs of resistance.

- When he resists your request, just stand there, stay silent and accept his resistance.

- After you have asked, expect him to moan, groan, scowl, growl, mumble, and grumble. Do not disapprove of his resistance, just go along with it. If he says: “I’m busy, why don’t you do it yourself.” Just say: “I’m busy too. Will you please do it?” then remain silent. His resistance has nothing to do with his willingness to give support, but to the timing of the request. To resist is a sign that the man is focused on something else and that he’s considering the request. If he was unwilling to give support, he will simply and calmly say no. By ignoring his resistance, it’ll go away quickly.

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We’re different, the fact is well settled. But what’s more important to know is, how different are we. Without understanding the difference between men and women, our relationships can get too frustrating and overwhelming. Below are seven differences between men and women you need to know if you want a happier and healthier relationship:

1- The need to talk

Men rarely do they discuss their problems, but when they do, it’s a way for them to ask you for your advice. On the other hand, women have a dire need to communicate and share their feelings and thoughts for the mere sake of sharing. They don’t need solutions, they simply need someone to listen and show empathy.

Because of this difference, when a woman shares her thoughts and problems, the man would perceive it as a request for his advice. He would then, interrupt her every now and then to steadily give her flows of advice she isn’t asking for. Eventually, the woman would give up talking and would complain that he isn’t listening. Thus, the man is left confused, wondering what went wrong.

When the couple acknowledges and understands their differences, the woman would see his advice as an expression of love and the man wouldn’t take his woman’s rejection of his advice too personally. Instead he’ll try to listen better and restrain himself from giving his solutions. The women, as a result, would feel more loved and fulfilled.

2- Coping with stress:

When a man is going through a stressful time, he might not feel like talking about what is upsetting him. The woman, however, might view it as a sign that her man is ignoring her or that she isn’t important enough to him to confide in her. This common belief is emanating from the fact that, unlike men, when a woman feels upset, she needs to talk about her problems to someone she trusts.

When a man feels upset, he focuses on solving his problem on his own. But if he wanted to talk that would be a sign that he’s asking for an expert advice. A woman, on the other hand, feels immediate relief through talking herself out. She discusses her problems randomly, small or big and in no logical order. She isn’t asking for an advice, she simply needs for her man to listen to her and show her empathy.

When a couple understands their difference, the man will be able to show more empathy. He will try to listen better to his woman, without trying to give her advice and without getting overwhelmed with all the details she’s reciting. And the woman, then, will try to understand her man’s need to withdraw and not talk about what is bothering him. She’ll try to be more considerate and not take his withdrawal personally.

3- Motivating each other to work on the relationship:

Women seem to give more than men do when it comes to a relationship. It doesn’t mean that men don’t care as much as women do, but here’s the thing; Women are afraid to receive. They fear rejection and disappointment and they often think less of themselves. They believe that they’re worthless for their men’s help. So, they go on trying to give as much as they can without setting boundaries for their giving. As a result, men don’t feel needed anymore. What women don’t realize is that men need to feel needed, and as women fear to receive, men fear to give. Men value power and strength, they aim to be competent and efficient. So, when it comes to someone they care about a great deal, ironically, they tend to give less; they fear failure.

A woman needs to express her needs in a way that isn’t so desperate, but that implies that she trusts her man to fulfill her needs. A compliment can impressively boost her man’s confidence. And when he fails or make a mistake, a woman shouldn’t blame him, but rather appreciate the effort he had put in and forgive him. On the other hand, a man should view his mistakes as a way to know his woman better and learn to fulfill her needs better.

4- Men are like a rubber band and women are like waves:

Men and women have different intimacy cycles. The man is like a rubber band. A man gets close until he fulfills his intimacy needs and then he pulls away until he fulfills his dependence and autonomy needs. Right then, after stretching as far, he comes springing back like a rubber band. He picks up the relationship right from where he left it before he pulled away, and again he’s fully available to give to his relationship.

The woman’s intimacy cycle, on the other hand, is more like waves. One moment she’s feeling good and all loving and caring and the next moment, she’s crashing down; she’s vulnerable and insecure. A woman needs to feel upset, it’s like an emotional cleansing. It’s irrational to expect her to feel good all the time. However, once she hits the bottom, she rises up again and is feeling good and loving. Her man needs to understand his woman's need to feel her negative emotions. He needs to show support and empathy and not get overwhelmed by her sudden neediness.

5- Different emotional needs:

There are twelve different emotional needs, and men and women, each has six primary love needs that are equally important to them. While a man needs: trust, acceptance, appreciation, admiration, approval, and encouragement; a woman on the other hand needs: care, understanding, respect, devotion, validation, and reassurance.

Because of the difference between men and women, many couples end up feeling unfulfilled in their relationship. The man is giving to his woman what he would have needed and the woman is doing the same. A woman might give her man too much care, being it her primary emotional need, that he’ll perceive the message that she doesn’t trust him to take care of himself.

6- They argue differently:

It’s not about what we’re arguing about, it’s about the way we argue. In a relationship, we’re bound to disagree. However, a little disagreement often escalates into an argument and then into a battle, not because of the importance of the issue, but because of the unloving way couples argue.

A man, when being challenged, instinctively tries to defend his point of view. And his tone of arguing becomes increasingly uncaring. This upsets the woman; whereas, her man keeps thinking that she’s upset about the issue and continues his arguing. The woman, on the other hand, can as hurtful. When being challenged, the woman’s tone of arguing grows untrusting and rejecting, which can be quite hurtful for her man.

To avoid arguments, you need to remember that often times, we’re not arguing about the issue but about the way we discuss the issue. Take a time out to cool down. Reflect on the way you’re approaching your partner and acknowledge his needs. Then go back and talk about the issue in a loving tone.

7- The difference in keeping score:

A man believes that by doing something big for his woman, like buying her a car or taking her on a vacation, he’s then scoring higher points than doing the little things, like buying her a flower or helping her around the house, does. However, women keep score differently. For a woman, no matter the size of the deed or gift, the score is always one point for each thing her man does for her.

So, when a man becomes more successful, he devotes more of his time in his career and less of it for his woman. The woman is now taking on more responsibilities to take care of the household chores. She’s frustrated and resentful because, from her point of view, she’s doing more than her man. Her man, however, thinks that the score is even now that his pay is higher. He’s happy with the new situation except for one thing, his woman is unhappy, so he blames her for needing too much which leaves her even more resentful.

By understanding the difference in keeping score. A woman can understand better why her man is doing what he does. She can, therefore, start requesting from him to do the things she needs without being resentful. And the man can understand how important it is for his woman to do the little things. By doing those little efforts, he can sense the difference in their relationship and how fulfilled and happy his woman becomes.

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